My 1 year old daughter hates shoes, with a passion.?

I worked at a daycare for a long time as the one year old teacher and one of our girls hated shoes. It was a nightmare. I'm super lucky that my kid LOVES her shoes but that's a different story.

There are a number of things you can try.

First and foremost you'll want to go with POSTIVE reinforcement. Give her a reward when she cooperates and wears her shoes like a big girl.

Make the shoes something she looks forward too. You can personalize her shoes by giving them a special name (something meaningful to her) and play games with her shoes off her feet. Place them on your fingers and make them "walk" around and up her leg and tickle her. This will turn shoes from something confining and heavy and uncomfortable to something that makes her laugh and that she enjoys. Tell her she looks pretty and so big with her big girl shoes on. Wear your shoes as much as possible even around the house and draw attention to your shoes at every turn. Say things like Mommy likes shoes. Shoes are pretty. Shoes are safe. Shoes are for big girls. Mommy's a big girl. Oh, (daughter's name) is a big girl...let's wear our big girl shoes like Mommy.

One year olds respond really well to the big girl encouragement and especially to the be like mommy. They are at a stage where they are beginning to define themselves as an individual and their only example is Mommy and Daddy and close relatives. They will develop their personalities by what they see around them and for the first few years of life they strive to be a mini Mommy or Daddy.

Make sure you keep the shoes in a special place that she can see and ask her what they are every time you walk by that place.

As far as taking other kids shoes off, this is where you employ punishment. Make sure she is disciplined with a time out(or your disciplinary procedure of choice) and apologize to the other kid.

You don't want to yell or get angry (even though it is RIDICULOUSLY frustrating, I know) as this will only ingrain in her mind that shoes make everyone unhappy. She will sense you get angry and believe that it is the shoes, not her refusing to wear the shoes. It will take some time.

Shoes For 1 Year Old

You have made sure that they fit her well? What about trying a completely different style (sandals instead of sneakers or vise-versa)?

I'm not sure what kind of out-and-about life style you live, but do you have the option of just tossing her shoes and socks in your bag, carrying her to and from the car and having her ride in a shopping cart or stroller for most of the time that you're out? Then put her shoes on her when she wants to walk? Walking = has to wear shoes. Not walking = shoes stay in mom's bag.

why "can't" you let her walk anywhere? unless the ground is unsafe, ie, broken glass, etc, there's no reason she can't walk - in fact, she should be walking as much as possible.

as for the shoe thing, indoors, she should be barefoot - period. outdoors on clean sand or grass, barefoot. this gives her foot the proper flexibility and movement to develop properly, which feet just don't do when confined in shoes.

she probably hates the shoes because they prevent her from feeling the ground - this seriously messes up a baby's balance. some babies begin walking with their toes spread pretty widely - socks can stop this and make walking more precarious, not to mention the slip factor.

A friend of mine has the same trouble. She placed a strip of velco around the top of her baby's shoes and is took a short while for the baby stopped doing it,now its OK

when she reaches for her shoes or socked feet, smack her hands. repeat until she gets the point. when she throws herself down for a fit, snatch her up and spank her.