About my 21 year old son?

With all due respect, your son is a jerk. But first find out why he didn't call. If he's ok then tell him you HAD a gift card for him. Then go out and spend it on yourself. People need to take responsibility and no one, I mean no one, forgets Xmas.

I am 60 now, divorced 7 years from the Mom of my 20 yo son and 23 yo daughter. I myself am a life-long alcoholic and "other" drug user even tho I managed to work 40 years successfully as a carpenter and building contractor. I would say your son might have a new gf (or bf?) or perhaps drinks or?

Also, I do not know your marital status...could be an issue. Lastly, I was talking to my own Dad a few years back when Sis had started in at Yale and her brother was driving one of my "spare" cars finishing HS near here and living with his Mom of course.

I mentioned that, even tho I paid for the cars and both their cell phone plans and their Mother had thanked me that sometimes I did not hear from them for weeks!

My Dad, who of course was a strict taskmaster while I was hip pushover for a father, laughed and laughed. "I don't remember you calling me up to go play or hang out when you were that age".

I would not "go find him" just to give him this, as he may not wish to be found right now. That is kind of a different issue, especially if he has been arrested or? I'd keep it in my wallet and give it to him next time you see him. Good luck and Happy Holidays! It's a tough time for kids now, needing new jobs and such. Teen and early 20's was very hard for me, and employment was part of the problem then, too.

well im 21 and I can tell you that at this age a lot of guys my age are just interested in meeting friends and drinking at parties during christmas. If he didn't even call you to say happy christmas then hes being a bit of an *** but he could simply have forgotten or might have been expecting you to call him rather then the other way round.

no. i know its ur son and it hurts you, but really if he didn't mind to make a call on xmas, you think going after him to even give him a gift is something nice? he'll get the gift, thank and leave. maybe also don't call on ur bday. just keep the gift and wait to see if he ever calls with an excuse. *hug*

Oh how sad it must have been for you go find your son take him to lunch take him grocery shopping for his new place and give him his gift and tell him you missed him at christmas. Kiss him and go on with the rest of your day. he is young afterall

don't go to far as to spend ages looking for him. call him or facebook (something like that) ask him why he didn't see you over christmas or even call. if its not good enough keep it for yourself. or if you think he's ok and you want to give him the card give it him.

he should have a good reason for not seeing his mum over christmas.

no let hims stand on his own two feet . However you are his mother and even at that age he does need one he is still young dont give him hadouts give him advice help him talk to him get to know him more even, so you dont have to worry about him as much

Maybe visit him and put on a "longing-for-my-son" look.

Maybe go and find out if he's ok?

no . just kick his A$$