Is it wrong to want a nice xmas dinner even if you are not christian?

No, it does not. Your are quite free to decide for yourself what it is that you are going to eat at Christmas, unless you have some dietary issues of your own to contend with.

Your counsellor did NOT say that, "you are not allowed a nice xmas dinner", but rather asked you a question:"Why are you bothered (by spending Christmas alone?"). As you have written this, it is not quite clear what she actually asked you.

Surely you can see the difference, though in what appears to have been asked, and your response? There is no challenge to your desire to have a traditional meal at all, and I do question the fact that you read it that way, as if you had a chip on your shoulder or felt embittered by the question.

I would suggest that your counsellor was intent on exploring why you were upset at spending the holiday on your own, as some people bring their family together for the holiday, whilst others prefer to acknowledge the holiday as a significant religious occasion, and others place no significance on it at all.

You say that you do not have a family, and apparently, you are not a Christian, so the significance of this particular occasion to yourself is unclear, and so you should hardly be surprised that your counsellor would try to establish your personal feelings on that matter.

Regardless of your own preference, which you have not indicated, there is no question but that you can choose to eat whatever takes your fancy, and there is NO RELIGIOUS significance in the traditional British Christmas meal! Don't read into a question, something that is not there!!

It is perfectly normal to want to join in with a celebration, so why should you not have a Christmas dinner like everyone else!

In my experience counsellors always try to make something small into something of great significance, even when there is absolutely nothing in it.

Christmas is a time when families get together and people feel guilty if they leave anyone out, even if they do not like them. Consequently, you get people having to put up with cantankerous family members, or people, who do not normally speak to each other being invited to the same house, just because 'it is Christmas'. It should then come as no surprise that there are more arguments and fallings out at Christmas than at any other time of the year.

"Christmas" is a christian holiday and important religious event. But the "Santa Claus Christmas" is not of course. Santa did not deliver Jesus to Mary because she was a good girl. In fact many of the Christian holidays are celebrated by non-Christians because there are so many pagan practices that go with them. The eggs during Easter is pagan, the christmas tree is pagan; and some are just commercialized heavily. But to be honest you should be having a "holiday" or "winter break" dinner, since Christmas is truly defined as a very important event on the Christian calendar. I really don't care what you call it, I'm a "Christian" but my girlfriend is Jewish and she celebrates "Christmas." Religion is dying and all that will remain of these holidays will be the commercialized remains.

I agree with what Alex said.

She never said that you can't celebrate Christmas, nor that you can't have a nice Christmas meal. She was just trying to understand why being alone at Christmas was bothering you so much, you don't have a family nor are you a Christian so, unless your situation about family has only happened in the last year, she was just trying to understand why being alone on this particular day was bothering you so much.

Try to, for next year arrange with some friends to spend Christmas together, it probably wouldn't be Christmas Day as they will have their own families to be with but you could arrange a nice day with your friends on Christmas eve or something, make your new years resolution to be that next Christmas, you won't have to celebrate alone.

No, your "councillor" is an idiot. Christmas is as much a cultural tradition as it is a religious festival - moreso even. Only one person in my family is a Christian (the rest of us are atheists and a pagan) but we all celebrate christmas, and none of us would want to be alone for it.

It's perfectly reasonable to not want to be alone at christmas time, regardless of your religion - if you're used to celebrating it then it would be awful not to. I can completely understand.

No, you can also have a nice Christmas dinner.

Christmas festival belongs to everyone.

Do not be upset and celebrate your Christmas on your own way. That would be good.

How bout x-mas pudding ice-cream, get a solid high quality vanilla ice-cream, a small yuletide pud, positioned some ice-cream right into a super bowl, fall apart in chunks of the pud, stir, positioned into freezer to freeze back up, not an argument as long as you're rapid with the combination as won't have de-frosted, and serve whilst waiting, attractive and mild-weight yet nevertheless serving x-mas pud!

A true Christian would gladly share the Holiday with you. That would be the true spirit of Christmas.

a counsellor shouldnt be saying that to you. -

I saw a doctor about the pill. - she said are you in a loving committed relationship.. my ex was dodgy but he was the only one i was seeing, I said no like a fool.

she then said i shouldnt need contraception and gave me a leaflet for the local church.

serioulsy its ok for people to have faith but they should leave their personal opinions at home when they do their jobs. - how did she know I didnt have issues with faith and I went to see her over depressioon also, it could have tipped someone less fortunate over the edge.

Im sorry you were alone. - make it your goal this year to meet people, and perhaps next Xmas you can take it into your own hands and do the entertaining x

Everyone should be able to have a nice Christmas dinner, your counselor was wrong to say that and you should enjoy Christmas.