Is there a happy medium in this war of genders?

The happy medium is people being allowed to choose to live the life that is right for them. For the past 40 years feminists have said things like "Being a housewife is an illegitimate profession... being a family-maker is a choice that shouldn't be. The heart of radical feminism is to change that" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vivian_Gornick This ideology ignores the fact that many women want to dedicate at least some of their life to raising a family with a man. Ultimately its children who lose, because the alternative to having a devoted Mom is usually some amount of childcare, and research shows that this can lead to children becoming aggressive and disobedient (Belsky et al, 2007). Even some feminists are starting to admit to this e.g. Rosie Boycott http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b00knrpc/The_... though lots of people have seen right through the feminist idea of 'liberation' since 1963 when Friedan first attacked the SAHM role.

Stop it. Just stop it. Men and women are supposed to give each other balance as well as love and respect. I can't stand the generalization that is given today. Women called sir instead of mam. Called actors instead of actresses. Is it an offense to be a man or woman? Well too bad because we are 2 different sexes. If a woman works the same job as a man then of course she should get the same pay, Reference, respect and benefits. But I don't see where calling her sir (a man) can make any difference with the job she is doing. Just like men, she does it right or wrong.

Now you are not working. SO WHAT! You are still just as important as you were before you had kids. You have just taken another path. Nothing more. Relax. Enjoy the kids and your life. And when it is time, go back to work.

It works both ways. There will always be unhappy campers in both camps.

A lot of those of us who went back to work are sick of being told we must be crappy mothers by the smugass stay at home cookie baking brigade. Staying home isn't an option for all women any more, it doesn't mean we love our kids less.

My husband, his father (who retired early), was at home to care for our boy. We are fed up with jokes about how crappy men are at child care. Everyone has some complaint or other. Women should learn to leave each other alone, what works for one doesn't work for everyone.

Of course there is. I'm sorry that someone said that to you. I have been a stay at home mother and consider myself a feminist.

By the way, I have been insulted by someone who told me I was wasting my time being a stay at home mother and that I was lazy. It wasn't a woman. There are many men out there who think the same thing.

I do believe we do what is best for our family and our children. However I totally support the idea that being a stay at home mother doesn't have to be your only career in your life. And being a stay at home mother doesn't mean you have to have a lower level of respect from your husband.

And that, my dear, is the real clincher. Many of those people who insist that women become stay at home mothers do so because they believe that is what a woman's place is in the kitchen.

I read about that. I was appalled at her behavior. Looking at the Mayor as a man I had sympathy for him. Now that you brought up the fact that both the woman and the Mayor are Democrats, I would say that I LOVE watching the Democrats turn on each other, it is top notch entertainment. And don't they do that so well? LOL

I believe the only true happy medium in the so-called fabricated war of the genders resides in the denial and ignorance of one's own bias. It's a place of pure utopian absolutism where one cannot be wrong no matter what circumstance, no matter what hypocrisy illuminates flawed logical loopholes from misplaced convictions.

In reality it is most times a very lonely place.

>"We took it so far that women will actually insult a stay at home mom saying that she has not reached her full potential and that she is a waste."

I am just amazed that someone actually said this to you. It is rude and judgemental (or perhaps just "mental"). Are people really that rude?

Yep. If you ship all feminists & male-feminists to a new colony to stand on their own feet, and leave the rest of heterosexual peolpe alone.

I believe in equal rights for women for women but in order for women to have them, men have to be discriminated against. This has occurred in education, marriage and the workplace. It is little wonder then that the fighting continues and this will not stop until legalized discrimination against men is abolished.

It's called 69