MIL & daughter got into a yell fest.....& husband is already angry with me...Help?

oh wow, mil's are like step kids, they wil never allow things to run smooth, and ur husband is already mad at you over this , i hate to say this but that is not a good sign sweetie, i hope thing can be worked out for you, just remember once trouble like this gets started it will most likely get worse, she will always see you as an outsider, good luck and God bless you. oh and has anyone told you , you look like sara palin, or she looks like u

Whose house is it? If it belongs to you and your husband, it is time for mom to go to the assisted living center or senior apartment complex. If it is HER house, get out now and live anyplace you can afford, even if it is very small.

This is not something that you can fix. My cousin and his wife moved in with his MIL, and within a year or two they were divorced. They moved in as a way of helping the MIL after her husband passed, and to help pay the house and take care of her. But she ruined them. What a shame, and with a young kid involved. It was the MIL fault.

Family therapy is a reasonable suggestion if things are getting out of hand and your husband does not see the problem. Please be very calm, very polite, never raise your voice, and document everything that you can (for example, write it down or get out the tape recorder if she starts to go off on you. The tape recorder will make her stop, but if it doesn't it makes for excellent evidence.)

Tell your husband exactly what happened and that you have apologized already. He would be wise not to take sides with his mother, but from your explanation, he will. Hopefully you and your husband can talk with your MIL and set a few ground rules, that she will mind her own business. If she cannot, she needs to move out. If your husband chooses his mother, you know where you stand in this marriage. YOu need to make decisions at that time. Good Luck!

If she can stir up problems she can get in her own place to do it. Honey it's not your MIL it's your husband, who is the problem bottom line. If he put her in her place you wouldn't be having this problem. Why are you so afraid? Is he abusive? Your daughter is grow and she wasn't out of line because I sure would tell someone off who is going off on my mother. You shouldn't ever have to walk on egg shells in your own home and if you do something is terribly wrong. You should put her in her place if your husband don't and stop apologizing, she needs to know her place.

It's possible that you apologize too much. You aren't responsible for what your grown daughter says. Sometimes when you apologize too much, you become a door mat. Standing up to her might be more effective.

Hi. Sorry to hear this. What you should do now is let your husband know what happened. Explain everything. You can't do much more. I hope all works out. Peace

the bible says for the kids to leave home and cleave unto themselfs, in other words,, get away from the inlaws so problems like this dont happen

MIL needs to get her own place.

Why does your mother-in-law live with you? Get her out of there all she'll ruin your marriage.

Kick her out. Or at least tell her that if she continues to keep this up, she is no longer welcome in your home.