What to do with a completely off the wall Brother-in-Law ?

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Hi,

Well, he beggars beleif sometimes.
Harmless enough, but weird and fanciful in extremis.

Lives in some fantasy world, so difficult.
He is openly gay, having been exposed to the gay scene in London, where he had, very breifly, the only paid job of his life in a travel agents.
That is OK with me, but explain this type of behaviour if you can........

Can be seen in Sept / Oct wandering the feilds & pastures, in search of solice & psylocibin (magic mushrooms)
Grows cannabis in his greenhouse.

Has found his personal god, so tried to build some sort of perspex pyramid shrine in his back garden, that collapsed in a puff of wind the next day.
Couldn't change a light bulb.

I have apparantly put some sort of hex on him in his intellegent but unreal mind, in that I belong to a Gentlemans club called the Freemasons.

He stayed with us for a few weeks, and personal hygeine became an issue, plus he set fire to my conservatory. 999 job.

I don't think it is all mild drug use, just  an incomprehensible state of mind.

His sister, the Mother of our children is a fine intelligent lass, and his Brother is a bit slow, but a hard-working family chap.

His parents are upstanding folks, so I am clueless as to why he is tha social embarrassment that he is.

Any ideas ?

Paul · Accepted Answer

Hey, there. It sounds like your brother-in-law has paranoid delusions. His delusions could be from a variety of different things, like schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, or long term effects of previous drug use. Check out some of the links I've included here for you. They'll give you some in-depth info about the disorders I mentioned. Personally, I think the best thing you or your wife could do for him would be to talk him into seeing a mental health professional, that way you all can find out what is causing his thoughts and behaviors and he can get treatment.

Articles on Schizophrenia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizophrenia#Confusion_with_other_conditions
http://www.schizophrenia.com/diag.php
http://www.webmd.com/schizophrenia/guide/schizophrenia-symptoms-types
http://www.medicinenet.com/schizophrenia/article.htm

Articles on Schizoaffective Disorder:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoaffective_disorder
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/schizoaffective-disorder/DS00866
http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Section=By_Illness&Template=/TaggedPage/TaggedPageDisplay.cfm&TPLID=54&ContentID=87235

Orla C · Answer

If you can get him off the drugs so that he's lucid, maybe you can actually talk to him properly. 

An intervention, perhaps? I think that given he's set your house on fire once, you'd have a legal reason for it.

Anonymous · Answer

I am slightly confused.

Your brother-in-law is gay and his sister is the mother of your children? That would imply that you are having a relationship with your brother-in-law who in turn has either nominated his sister as a mother to your children or you have slept with his sister. This is very confusing but based on the hygiene issue and the drugs, I would ask your brother (I assume!) to get rid of him.

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