How to break of something relatively new, without hurting his feelings (post-divorce)?

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i've been dating a guy for the past 3 months, although we only see each other about 2x a month (i'm a single mom and it's all i have wanted to invest post-divorce). he's been pushing me to have a serious relationship and i don't want one at this point in my life; i'm focused on my son, and many, many other things. i made this very clear to him, but he just doesn't seem to get it (he keeps asking what kind of house he should buy, and telling me that i should interview for a new job where he lives... he's freaking me out). he also keeps trying to impress me with his money, and i guess, that he's willing to commit. i don't know how to tell him that his goals are not mine. any advice on how to let him down without bruising his ego?

MaggieMae · Accepted Answer

Be honest with him.  Tell him that you are just testing the waters after your divorce and you need much more time before you can commit to a single person.   He should understand.   If he truly loves you, like it sounds he will be patient and wait for you and not push you.  Tell him he is making you afraid by coming on to strong and that you are just not ready for a serious relationship.  No one ever got hurt by hearing the truth.  Be honest, and kind.

ocrlr2000 · Answer

If you are being honest with him and yourself, than stop accepting his calls, emails or texts.  Sounds like he's a little controlling and probably and little materialistic. Your son needs his mother and you know that. If you cannot work together reaching a mutual agreement, than whats the rest of your relationship going to be like if you commit to this person.  Yes there may be security with money, but monies made and lost, you need substance along with a relationship. Love will and can carry you through the hard times.

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How to break of something relatively new, without hurting his feelings (post-divorce)?

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