Please help...........Sleeping question 9 week old?

He's only 9 weeks old, there's no way you should let him cry or withold feeds from him.

The best way to encourage good night time sleeping is teaching him the difference between night and day. Keep the daytime busy, loud and bright. When he wakes, play with him. At night, keep it quiet, dark and boring. Try not to engage with him too much, and even eye contact can get him excited. He'll eventually learn that he doesn't need to wake.

At this stage, letting him cry will create far more problems. He will sleep more soundly when he feels completely secure to do so. Letting him cry will make him insecure and unsettled.

ETA - to 'Ann_Lohan'. Even Dr Ferber himself has since said that his method is more damaging than it is helping. Incidentally, he only ever recommended letting an infant cry over the age of 6 months. Letting a young baby cry it out is cruel.

First of all ignore the comment from katie! My son is now 4 months old and I would feed him in the dark in his bedroom at around 7ish put him in his cot while he was still half awake and stroke his nose once he fell asleep I would leave him and wake him up at 11ish to feed him again and then put him down in the same way as earlier. That way he gets used to falling asleep in his bed not in your arms. My son also woke up during the night always at random times I knew he wasnt hungry as he would mess with an oz or so, a friend told me to give him cool boiled water during the night I did and he didnt really like it and now he very rarely wakes up during the night. I dont know if it was just a habit from being newborn and feeding every couple of hours and that broke the cycle? It might not work but maybe worth a try. Good luck and I hope he sleeps well soon.

I know how you feel, it's like they are dependant on you alot at this age. In the end i took her out of her moses basket and put her in a cot and she seemed to improve.

If he doesn't want any milk then what can you do.

If he start not taking it around every feed i would ring health visitor up and say he's not taking if you are concerned, it could be he's going through a growth spurt? They do around this age.

I know people say let them cry but it is hard and i don't like it as i think it make them feel as if they're not wanted?

Have you tried a dummy or don't You believe in that, if all else fails maybe you can?

If he isn't crying a hungry cry then there no need to feed him really but try and make up the feeds he miss in the night up during the day so he is getting sufficient milk supply.

Hope it all get sorted

My 10 week old sometimes does this. He wakes for whatever reason and i change him and by that time he is awake and wants to be held. Usually giving him a pacifier will do the trick. Also I talk softly to him and caress his cheek. I try to keep him away a good two hours before I got to bed for a better chance of a good nights sleep for both of us.

But yes he could also be hungry. Many 9 week olds still need to be fed every 2-4 hours. I always try nursing my baby to get him to sleep also. 90% of the time that's why he cries.

I don't understand why you think he isn't hungary. He is eating, even if it is only a couple ounces. It is normal and should be expected that he wakes to eat during the night. Feed him rock him to sleep and go back to bed. Leaving him to cry at this age should be completely out of the question. I am sure it is hard to balance a newborn with 2 older children but hopefully the baby will start sleeping for longer intervals soon.

its common for baby's under 6 months to wake during the night and you shouldn't cut night feeds out until he is 6 months old as his tummy is still small and needs topping up regularly. he is only 9 weeks most midwifes dont think a routine works until a baby is 3 months old.

this is my boys routine it has worked since he was 14 weeks old. he has a bath around 6.30, then he gets into his sleep suit and has a bottle, the lights are out and tv is down low. then i make sure he is properly winded and lay him to sleep, putting on his cot mobile. this took about 20 Min's for him to sleep. i would feed him around 10 i would dream feed him though, basically you don't wake him up you just feed him either in his cot or lift him out slowly and feed him on your lap then put him down. this works because your not waking him up, if you wake him he has already had about 3 hours sleep so he wont feel tired right away then he will quickly become over tired, becoming difficult to settle. when he wakes during the night keep the lights low offer him the bottle and if he doesn't want it lay him down. when he starts crying pick him up until he stops then lay him down. keep rocking and talking to him minimal.offer him his bottle. keep repeating until he falls asleep. it will be hard to start with but keep at it. don't go out of the room. stay next to him. don't pick him up if he is just whining or making noise only when he cries.

all babies are different talk to your partner about your plan and stick to it. be flexible.

hope it helps!

Babies will do that! Keep him awake more during the day, limit naps to about 3 hrs. My 12 week old sleeps through the night already. Try giving him a pacifier, my baby loves hers! Once you get him in a routine it will get better. I make it really dark and quiet at night too. She goes to sleep on her own and stays asleep anywhere from 7-10 hrs.. The best thing that helped mine was taking her outside, the natural sunlight gets their brains in sync. This is CRUCIAL if you ever want him to get his days and nights figured out.

This sounds normal for a 9 week old. Try to give him more at 10pm though - let him have the first lot then sped some time changing him etc before the rest.

My sons routine was similar to this.He'd have a bottle of about 4-5oz about 11.30pm,then he'd wake usually around 2am,occasionally 3 or 4am.I'd make him a bottle and he'd often drink very little of it,but at least he had some.I'd then wrap him in his blanket and hold him,and rock him to sleep,it often worked.He'd always have his dummy in his mouth too.Waking every night for me was very tiring,but as he was my first,it was something i had to do as a mother,and i just tell myself thats what babies do.

He might just want to suck. I took my 9 wk old for her 2mo check up yesterday, and he told me not to feed her every 2 hours at night anymore (even though she wakes up). He says she probably just wants to suck! So last night I gave her a binky instead of feeding her (unless it had been 3 hours or more) and she fell back to sleep happy!