gender confused, or just a form of kink?

This guy isn't needing a heterosexual, monogamous relationship. I'm not going to insult, belittle, or berate him. But if he is bi sexual, and wants to act on that, then that is the time to file for divorce. You don't want him to give you HIV. I am not putting down homosexuals, but there is a much higher percentage of HIV amongst the gay community. And I think it is unfair for any man to risk spreading HIV to his wife. You said he likes to cross dress now, and wants to be dominated. That doesn't sound like he's pitching, it sounds like he's catching. And what he could end up catching is HIV. And you don't deserve to become infected with that. I'm very sorry to hear this is happening to you. There are plenty of other men out there who are not into this lifestyle. I suggest you find a guy who is straight.

You sound like your transgender. i could advise seeing an experienced gender counselor or therapist. If after a sprint counseling/treatment you be attentive to which you truly experience such as you're a guy, you are able to start up taking testosterone in case you elect. After approximately 10-13 months on testosterone, you will get surgical treatment if that's what you elect.

You and your husband have an unusual relationship. This forum is certainly not going to provide you with the answers that you need to this very complicated question. I am suggesting counseling. You will need to pick through all the pieces of this and decide what to do. He very definitely should have counseling, but you as a couple need that also.

ONCE IN THE LAST YEAR, sorry honey he seems to be telling you everything straight and true now, meaning he is not pure straight. Do whats best for you if your not happy you should leave him, good luck.

Gosh he sound like a dirty h0mo. Kick him to the curb and find a nice strong white guy.