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Is my relationship with this guy worth it? Help plz...?
There are things, that as a girl, I don't know if I should overlook or just tolerate, or maybe have a bit of patience?...
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Long story short: I have been with this guy for almost a year and a half. For the whole time we have been together he's had these two girl friends with whom he would ALWAYS hang out. He would go to school with them, have lunch, and even go over to their house to watch movies until 3am... I talked to him, however, him and I never fully agreed on anything when it came to his relationship with those girls. He even decided to drop out of school (and didn't tell me until after a month), but he would still go to school... to do what? don't ask... I still think about that question sometimes...
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Finally, so it seemed he had gotten to the realization that hanging out with those girls the way he was doing it was disrespectful to our relationship. I was happy he realized that. I didn't feel like pressuring him into the change.
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This last Dec. we were at his house messing with our phones... I got his and started checking his txts (in front of him)... he got nervous... pull the phone away... I didn't say anything. However, it made me think... what's going on here?
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It wasn't until January that while playing bowling with him and some friends I decided to grab his cell again, told him that I wanted to see something. I found txts of him with one of the girls... and with this new other girl talking about his sexual relationships. She told him that if he would of gotten with her he would of stopped being a virgin a looong time ago... to which he answer: "ohh you naughty girl lol"...
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Obviously I got extremelly upset. Asked him if he had anything else to say. He said that was everything he had ever done and that he was really sorry. I told him that I couldn't trust him anymore... blah, blah, blah... after all of these we still tried to make things work...
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Today, I was using his computer for school and when I was looking for my saved documents I saw a picture folder named "Beautiful", inside, picture of girls half naked... and pictures of some of his Facebook friends...
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Any comments?... what the heck should I think of these?...
Plz, plz, plz, plz, plz.... help
5 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Hi... Let me start off by saying there is no forgiveness when your partner is talking about sexual things with some other girl. You should have ended all communications with him right there and then... But you must really like or love the guy in order for you still be with him. There's a saying I'm pretty sure you've heard of 'if a person can purposely do something wrong once. they are surely going to do it again'.. So with that phrase in mind.. You clearly found pictures of other girls on his computer. He seems like the person that doesn't learn his lesson or he just doesn't care enough to be 100% faithful. To be truthful I don't understand why your letting yourself go through the stress of always having to be worried if he's gonna cheat on you or 'is' cheating on you. There's really nothing to think about here. What if he was in your position? I believe he would leave you. In my personal opinion you should end it. Cause its likely he's going to repeat his habits. I really do hope the best for you in your future relationships and finding someone that is more interested in being with you instead of going to school just to hang out with his other girlfriends. stay Happy! :)
- Anonymous5 years ago
You appear the sort of first-rate lady that any guy might be pleased with and to be fortunately married to. To me, you appear to be announcing 'is that this all there may be? - is that this what my lifestyles will likely be, stretching forward of me?" There's no high-quality disorders happening that might drive you to make a choice and transfer on, or transfer out - so that you might cross on like this for years, after which in the future, flip round and say - I've wasted my lifestyles. There's no -reload button on lifestyles, no movement replays. There's alweays the danger if you happen to go away that lifestyles gets worse for you - however there is additionally the likelihood that it might get greater in case you have manage again once more. Only you'll be able to know the way strongly you desire a difference, however there is not anything right here for you for your dating - while you're older and the baby is older, you can also no longer have the capability to difference matters.
- 1 decade ago
Um to me I would confront him again about it.
I don't think that talking about things behind your back to other girls would really help the relationship one bit. Um people always use to tell me when this boy i liked 2 times once because he liked me and then he totally blew me off and then i liked him again and now hes going out with this girl when he even told me in my face that he liked me but anyway they told me that "Second chances, They never do matter people never change". Since you gave him a second chance probably more he still is talking to other girls or either have naked pictures of girls. (not saying that he is just saying he probabley does or is)
- 1 decade ago
follow your heart if your Truly tired don't continue. if u feel hes gonna cheat leave him but if you fell hes going to change then don't its all about trust and communication. w.o that blah ur nothing
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