Have any of you had a spouse who is sick a lot?

Yes. My late husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer.....chronically sick, and dying.....for months. I gave him 3-4 bed baths and changed his sheets.....everyday. I loved taking care of him. He was my life. I never complained because I never knew when his last breath would be taken. I wanted to touch him, rub him down, make him feel better, give him TLC. He died June 2008. I would give anything to touch him, see the twinkle in his beautiful blue eyes, hear his laughter, and hear his voice......just once more.

Never take anyone for granted.....you never know. So cherish each moment you have with your spouse. Take care of each other.

And your husband's frustration comes from the fact that he feels like a failure because he can't help you or heal you. It makes a man feel less a man when he has to watch the woman he loves, suffer. That in turn, makes him feel helpless. And that makes a man feel like a failure. Do not take his frustration personally. He just doesn't know what to do to help you.

My wife has a condition that keeps her feeling sick about 75% of the time. It is very hard. I do everything I can to be suportive of her and make her as comfortable as I can.

I can understand your husbands frustration. There is nothing worse than watching the woman you love in pain and know that there is nothing that you can do about it. Sometimes it makes me want to just explode, as it feels like im failing her as a husband.

I just take it all day by day and never let her see that it hurts me like it does - she has too much to deal with already.

Next time you get unwell, milk it, too. You mentioned that the sector does not quit while you get unwell ... possibly it will have to. Maybe then, you would not resent him for it now (do not EVEN inform me that you do not - you do. Just re-learn your paragraph, good enough?). I've determined that guys are both gigantic toddlers while they get ill, or they retreat and desire to be left by myself fully. Looks such as you received one of the vital former, however you mentioned the "in health problem and in wellbeing" factor in entrance of God and your entire peers, so that you are not able to take it again now. Yes, you ARE meant to attend on him hand and foot. Being unwell sucks - let's accept it. So deliver him additional TLC, and allow the sector quit for you subsequent time you return down with whatever. Even when you believe such as you would do X Y and Z, do not. Let them live on a couple of days with out you, and allow that be their re-schooling of all of the matters you do for them. You mentioned that you do not take unwell days ... however is not that your alternative? TAKE THEM subsequent time ! You're now not a foul spouse for feeling that manner. You are a foul spouse, nonetheless, if you do not handle him till he will get betta. :D P.S. He's a gigantic boy - I'm certain when you had been down for a couple of days, he'd manage stuff simply quality. Maybe now not the way in which YOU might manage them, however I'll guess he'd litter through. Umm ... no approach to say this however to simply say it, so ... did you now not marry a grown guy? You're making it sound like he is this inept bumbling man, good enough? He's a little one while he is unwell, you are the one one that can manage family stuff or the sky will fall ... I'm now not certain what is going on. Is he that incompetent, or are you quite a closet manage freak who are not able to allow cross, delegate duties, and loosen up just a little as soon as in a even as? P.P.S. Yikes ... striking in combination a swing set might fall underneath the class of "rough exertions" kind stuff that he will have to do. Really sorry he is taking you without any consideration like that. It certain seems like he quite a dose of lifestyles with out the spouse, all of the things you do for him, so he would fully grasp ultimately. Maybe creating a record ? Down one aspect of the paper of all of the matters he expects you do, after which an additional record of the stuff he does? I recognize that you just are not able to % a bag and disappear for every week ...

That be my American , Honey , we'll deal with it .He knows me and has since day 9. We won't split up unless he gives up on me . Hes just a b/f though

have you considered alternative medicine ( herbs, teas, supplements ) there are alot out there to help you- you may not be feeling better because of your husbands frustrations also- ask him to please think/say kinder thoughts so you can feel better not worse.

not me or mine. but my friend is. she always sick and always take MC all the time! the boss is hating her. maybe will fire her soon!