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Cheating girlfriend? Help me out!?

For the past yr, I've suspected my girlfriend had been seeing a guy she works with behind my back. It seemed liked a lot added up. She would only call when she needed something, never wanted to be around me and so on. Whenever I would bring it up she got very defensive about it which tipped me off that something was going on! Move ahead to the end of August, 2009. Her 15 yr. old son commited suicide. I was NEVER told about him being in the hospital until the day he died and even then she never told me, her mother did! But that's not the best part, I was bannised from attending her son's funeral, a boy I'd taken under my wing and had treated like a son for five-years. Reason given: She didn't wanna tell me cause she was afraid I would start drinking again. Yeah, what a bunch of bullshit huh? Needless to say I will never forgive for that move! Well, just recently, I find out from a story her older daughter posted on Facebook, that this other guy Dwayne was @ the hospital with my g/f and her family and was even at the funeral. Once again when I brought it up to her she denied it and became very defensive. But why would her daughter make this up? To end this, I finally told her that it's finally over and she can go to Dwayne and not have to worry about me anymore! And yes, she began to cry like the baby she is and tells me to believe what I want. So....did I make the right move? Does everything add up to her seeing this guy behind my back? Tell me what you think. Thanks

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    This whole situation was VERY suspicious. Her reason for not telling you about her son seems stupid,but somewhat credible. You never know what goes through people's minds during times of extreme stress, they don't always think logically. As for only calling you for favors, that makes me think she was cheating. This evidence is all circumstancial, but hey,where there's smoke there's fire. The bottom line is she didn't want you around (for one reason or another) in her time of need and only uses you for things she needs. So whether she was cheating or not, sounds like you made the right decision to get out of this relationship.

    Take time to heal,then go out and find someone who gives you genuine love! you deserve it!

    Hope this helps!

  • Lynn
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Yes, she is seeing Dwayne, and yes you did the right thing. Seems she was just using you as a fallback guy in case Dwayne didn't work out. When she didn't tell you about her son, that alone should have told you, and then having you banned from the funeral would have taken the cake. Move on she's not worth your time.

  • 1 decade ago

    Ok, so you should do this if you don't wanna regret what u did for a long time:

    1. Call her and apologize for speculating that she was datin dwayne (even if u aren't sry, b a man and lie 1 her :D )

    2. Talk about her not invinting u 2 the funeral, and tell her to give u some normal reasons

    3. Talk to her daughter and ask who dwayne is

    4. Try to be very caring, she lost her son after all.

    5. Take her out to dinner, spend time with both her daughter and her

    6. Don't EVER get angry at her, no matter how much she lies, is she does lie shw will give in seeing your honesty and stuff

    7. Give me 10$ if this helped you :))

    Source(s): Ma sexy brain
  • 1 decade ago

    She is seeing someone behind your back and its good that you broke up with her because she was definitely being horrible and mean to you. I'm very sad that it all worked out that way, it seems that your a nice guy and you deserved better. Anyone who doesn't let someone come to a funeral because of cheating on another guy is so messed up and evil, she should regret it for the rest of her life. You should have at least been able to come to the funeral, not talk to her, and simply pay your respects to the kid.

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  • 4 years ago

    properly after the baby is born, you should certainly examine to ascertain if this is yours, i imagine today you should pass and finally end up, in simple terms have sometime for your self, if it appears that evidently the baby isn't yours, then you certainly and also you truly do not forget that your no longer obligated to stay consisting of her and help raised her infant, in case you opt for to then that is you, yet you do not could help her strengthen a baby that you probably did not help carry into this international. yet another difficulty is that you'll't anticipate if this infant is yours or no longer, being that she slept round at the same time as nevertheless napping with you, "that is gross" yet anyhow, in simple terms because you pull out doesn't propose that she wont get pregnant both, yet when she did not use safe practices with the different dudes, then you certainly could pass get examined too, i do not could allow you to realize this, yet i imagine you deserve slightly yet or more suitable then some thing someone better. wish that this enables. xoxo

  • 1 decade ago

    dude u did the right thing she is definetly seeing another guy if she didn't need comfort or someone to talk to or be by when her son was in the hospital she is just trying to have you both and you both couldn't go to the funeral or you two would have figured out about each other and obviously she is going to cry she got caught it's her fault not yours just don't let her trick u again with this believe what you want to bullcrap!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well, judging from what i read, it seems like she was taking you for granted and using you. I am not trying to hurt you or anything, but i think you were here "boy toy".

    Anyway, i definitely think you made the right choice...

    The fact that you even posted this shows that you still care and that you are a good guy... i dont think she deserves a person like this.

    I hope you find someone better than that. Dont doubt yourself.

    Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you did the right thing, do you love her? I think so. Well give her some space brother If you love something, set it free; if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was.

  • 1 decade ago

    yes you deff made the right choice

  • 1 decade ago

    Yea, she was definitely bumping uglies.

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