Lynn

the person has absolutely no reason to be jealous? I recently found (actually this morning) that my stepson has extreme issues with me. He told his dad that I have moved up in here and am taking over. My husband and I have been together for 7 years and I have never done anything to this boy. I've always encouraged their relationship. When he is in town, I always make sure to have dinner for him and his family and have gone out of my way to make them feel welcomed in my home. This was definitely a shot out of left field. My husband says he is jealous, because his son has had a lot of pull in his past relationships, and even said that the son had a hand in helping to run off his last stepmother. (this I did not know) My husband never stood up to him until me. He has told him that I am the one who he will spend the rest of his life with, and he has NO say so in it and when he starts paying his bills, then he can start telling him how to live. Well, needless to say, this only makes him resent me more. He calls other family members and says horrible things about me and just causes all kinds of problems. My husband tells me it's because he feels that I have taken his place, which is not the case at all. He is a grown man (32) and if he has issues, then he should get help for them instead of blaming me. AND, you would think he would be happy for his dad, because for the first time in his life, he has found someone that makes him happy. I have gotten to the point that I really don't want to have anything more to do with him. I will always encourage my husband to maintain their relationship, but I am not going to oblige him anymore. How would you handle this?

Today is my stepsons birthday (my husband adopted him when he was 14.) He is now 32 years old. They have a dinner party planned and have invited myself and my husband. Here is the dilemma my mother passed away 2 years ago on this day. I really don't feel much like attending a party. I told my husband to go with out me but he won't. He says he wants to be here with me (he worries about me, because my mother and I were very close.) So, he called his son and told him that we wouldn't be coming and that we would take him and his family out to dinner this weekend. His son flew off and started yelling. I could hear everything he was saying. This is the question he posed to his dad, "So your wife's mother died and it just happened to be on my birthday, so I guess this means you'll never celebrate my birthday again"? Well, my husband got extremely mad and hung up on him. They haven't spoken since. I'm in shock. Part of me feels guilty, but another part of me wants to call and cuss him out. He's a grown man and I'm not going to pacify him. We offered to celebrate on a different day, but that wasn't good enough. Are we wrong? OR is his son acting childish? How would you handle this situation?

My husband and I have been together for 7 years now. He has an ex step daughter and an ex step son from his previous marriage which lasted 4 years (their divorce was in part) because of them. When he and I first started dating, they came around occasionally (usually it was to ask for money or favors) but they (especially him) were always extremely disrespectful to me even tho I tried to be cordial and inviting to them. So after a couple of years of being treated this way, I put my foot down and told him that if he can't be respectful of me and my home that he needs to stop visiting, he was nothing to me and I don't let my own children treat me this way. My husband was behind me 100% and even commented that he wished both of them would just stay away and leave him alone. So, fast forward about 6 months, I left one morning to take my mother to her chemo treatment and I am usually gone several hours. That particular day, I had some work I needed to get done so my mom told me to go get it done and come back for her later. Well, when I arrived at home, there was a strange car in my driveway frantically blowing it's horn. Come to find out, it was him and his wife, he was in my house, and she was being the look out. They were there trying to steal my mothers pain meds. I went off and told them both to get the hell off of my property and for them to never come back, because the next time I won't be so nice. Did I do the right thing? What would you have done?

My husband and I have been together for 7 years now. He has an ex step daughter and an ex step son from his previous marriage which lasted 4 years (their divorce was in part) because of them. When he and I first started dating, they came around occasionally (usually it was to ask for money or favors) but they (especially him) were always extremely disrespectful to me even tho I tried to be cordial and inviting to them. So after a couple of years of being treated this way, I put my foot down and told him that if he can't be respectful of me and my home that he needs to stop visiting, he was nothing to me and I don't let my own children treat me this way. My husband was behind me 100% and even commented that he wished both of them would just stay away and leave him alone. So, fast forward about 6 months, I left one morning to take my mother to her chemo treatment and I am usually gone several hours. That particular day, I had some work I needed to get done so my mom told me to go get it done and come back for her later. Well, when I arrived at home, there was a strange car in my driveway frantically blowing it's horn. Come to find out, it was him and his wife, he was in my house, and she was being the look out. They were there trying to steal my mothers pain meds. I went off and told them both to get the hell off of my property and for them to never come back, because the next time I won't be so nice. Did I do the right thing? What would you have done?

I recently gave a friend some advice. I'm hoping I wasn't wrong. The question is.....Would you be angry or upset (and would you have a right to be) IF you found out that your husband was bad mouthing you and saying untrue things about you to another woman? and how would you handle the situation? Thanks in advance for your honest opinions.

My husband and I have been together for 4 years now. He has two ex-stepsons who don't really come around very much. However, my husband just informed me 3 days ago that they would be coming for Christmas. They haven't been here for Christmas since we have been together. Here is the problem: They have 5 kids between them and my husband has this idea that I need to do the same for them as I do for our grand kids. They are not his grandchildren nor are they mine, and I don't think I should have to all of a sudden run out and spend that kind of money. These kids aren't even family, and I think it was very rude of them to invite themselves over for Christmas with just a few days notice. Those kids have 2 sets of grandparents who are doing for them already. My husband and I are the only grandparents that ours have left. Not to mention all of the extra food I have to buy and prepare. Believe me, I'm not a whiner by far, but I think family should always come first and we have NEVER done anything for them on Christmas before. We don't know these children very well, and it's difficult to treat them the same as we do our own. I am already overwhelmed just trying to get things ready for the family, not to mention that I just lost my mother last week. Please give me honest answers. Do you think they should get the same treatment? and what would you do in my situation?

I have an older model Cub Cadet Riding mower. The thing runs excellent and cuts better than my newer one. The problem I am having is that it keep breaking the deck belt, (the one that actually turns the blades). Can anyone (PLEASE) tell me why it could be doing this. All answers are greatly APPRECIATED!

Does Nintendo DS games also fit in the Nintendo DS Lite? My granddaughter wants the DS lite for X-mas, and I need to know if the games she has now will work in it. Thanks in advance for your answers.

I am so full of static, I don't even want to move let alone touch anything. I bought a humidifier, no help. I do not wear synthetic clothing. I put enough lotion on my skin to drown a 700 pound cow and still nothing helps. Every time I touch ANYTHING, I get actual sparks flying, and a very painful shock. The shocks are becoming more and more intense. I few minutes ago, I touched the light switch, sparks flew and I got such a powerful shock through my hand and arm that now my shoulder is aching very badly. Please someone tell me how I can stop this. It is making my life completely miserable. Oh, and dryer sheets, static guard nor hairspray work either. I have tried it all, and I thought I could get some new ideas here. Thanks in advance for your answers.

I am so full of static, I don't even want to move let alone touch anything. I bought a humidifier, no help. I do not wear synthetic clothing. I put enough lotion on my skin to drown a 700 pound cow and still nothing helps. Every time I touch ANYTHING, I get actual sparks flying, and a very painful shock. The shocks are becoming more and more intense. I few minutes ago, I touched the light switch, sparks flew and I got such a powerful shock through my hand and arm that now my shoulder is aching very badly. Please someone tell me how I can stop this. It is making my life completely miserable. Oh, and dryer sheets, static guard nor hairspray work either. I have tried it all, and I thought I could get some new ideas here. Thanks in advance for your answers.

Lately I have been completely stressed out at work, and some issues going on with my mother. My birthday is coming up on 11-29, and I just wanted to get away for the weekend, go to the mountains with my hubby, and just forget about everything and relax for a minute. The problem is, that my hubby's family reunion is that same weekend, and he wants to go there. Here's the issue, I don't mind going, but last year I spent my actual birthday at this reunion, and I feel like since I sacrificed last year, that he should this year. We are unable to go during the week, due to work, and this is his last 3 day weekend for quite some time. I just want to know if you guys think I'm being selfish, or do I have the right to request something since it is my birthday? Btw, his family has 3 or 4 of these reunions every year. Do we have to go to all of them? Thanks in advance for your answers.

I know this off the category, but I am here most of the time, and I know I will get Intelligent answers with you guys. I have a chili cook off tomorrow, and I am representing our club, because I won the contest there. I need a good name for my chili. It can be serious, funny, witty etc. My chili is medium hot, and I do use beans in mine (some people don't). If we need to put my name in there, it is Dannah, but does not have to be in the chili title. Please, serious answers only. I WILL be choosing my name from here. Thanks to everyone in advance for your answers.

Hypothetically...If you and your husband were at a party, would you allow your husband to mingle around single women, hugging on them and being overly friendly with them? Not saying he would be groping or even doing anything of that nature, just being a bit TOO friendly and basically forgetting you were even there. How would it make you feel? Would you consider your feelings as being jealous or would you consider your husband as being extremely disrespectful to you and your marriage? The reason I am asking, is because we have a couple of friends, and he does this to her all the time. She gets mad, and he says she's just jealous. I'm sorry, but I agree with her. She is a very attractive woman, and has nothing to be jealous of. I told my hubby if he acted that way, I would never go anywhere with him. Well needless to say, he got upset with me, because he agrees with the guy in this situation. Who do you think is right? It's ok to be friends with the opposite sex, but when you have to be touching someone (like on the shoulder or hand) to have a conversation with them, to me, It's just wrong. He shouldn't be touching another woman in any way as far as I'm concerned.

My husband and I met 3 years ago in a private club. We had many mutual friends. My husband is 11 years older than me, and most single women in the club are closer to his age, as I am the youngest one there. No one showed interest in him at all, UNTIL he and I got married 4 months ago. Now there are alot of women who flirt with him, give him big hugs and so forth. ( This doesn't bother me, because I know he isn't interested in any of them and I trust him fully. As well, I am very comfortable in our relationship.) But why is it NOW? Why the sudden interest in him? Why act that way now, when they know he's happily married? It just blows my mind, and I can't figure it out.

Hey all M & Ders.....What's for dinner?

My husband and I belong to a private club, and we visit the social quarters on Wednesdays and Sundays for dart tournaments. The bartender there is a gay guy. He's always saying sweet little things to my husband (never anything out of the way), and I always catch him giving my hubby the googly eyes. It makes my hubby feel uncomfortable, and quite frankly, it makes him sick to his stomach. I'm sorry, but I think it's completely harmless and find it quite funny. My hubby gets mad at me when I laugh about it, but I know he would NEVER go that way, and I can't help but laugh because there are so many other "unattached" men in there that he could flirt with. Maybe I should be more sensitive about it. Would you find it funny or what?

My husband and I married in May, 2010. We both have children (all grown) and grandchildren. We have lived together almost 3 years. All of them visit us on a regular basis (which is great). His daughter and 3 grandchildren visit us usually on Sunday. I love them all dearly, but here is the problem. When they come over to visit, she brings half of the neighborhood kids with her. They run through the house acting like maniacs, they put their dirty hands all over the walls, spill things in the carpet, and recently they tore the bottom railing off of the pool table. They also go ballistic on the trampoline. I have found several springs in the yard. The thing is, when all those other kids don't come with them, they are pretty good kids, and don't do these things. Also, I always try to cook dinner for them, and I never know how much to cook or who is going to show up with them. On the 4th of July, we planned a family cook out at the lake, and here she comes strolling up with 6 extra kids. I didn't or wouldn't ever say anything, but I think it's completely rude. Am I wrong? I have discussed this with my husband, and he doesn't mind the extra company, but he's not the one cleaning up the aftermath either. Last year, we remodeled the basement, (preparing for retirement), and it already needs to be done again, and we're never down there. The boys were playing with a ball in the drive way, and dented his truck (and he has a very nice truck), but there were no consequences, so a few weeks later, here they are playing with a ball around the vehicles again. I told my husband he needs to make them stop before they dent my car or his truck again. His reply was aww they're just kids, and I said maybe, but they need to learn to respect others property, and there is plenty of room to play ball in the backyard. So, I had to make them stop, which I felt wasn't my place. Am I being unreasonable? How would you handle the situation? Btw they kids are 16, 13 and 7, so they know right from wrong.

I live in Georgia, and in early spring I planted a Japanese Maple tree. It was only about a foot tall and has already grown to over 3 feet tall. The problem I am having is there is some kind of insect eating all of the leaves off of it. I have never been able to actually see the bug, but each day, I'm seeing less leaves on it, and you can tell they are being eaten. I'm thinking whatever it is, it's doing it at night, but still not sure. Can any one tell me what's eating it? Will it harm or possibly kill the tree? What can I do to stop it?

Why is it that married people on here or in general have scheduled sex? Or one partner having to ASK the other for sex. This just completely blows my mind. Come on people it's sex, it's not a baseball game to which you had to by tickets and be there at a certain time to see it. Please explain this to me. I'm married, and sex isn't ever a scheduled event. If he's in the mood, he gets me in the mood, and if I am, I do the same for him. If it's ever talked about between us, it's usually what we would like to do or try with each other, but never is it out right asked for nor is it ever scheduled. What ever happened to ROMANCE? Please don't say it changes after marriage, because it's in my opinion it should have gotten better simply because you become more comfortable with each other and shouldn't be embarrassed to try anything with your spouse. At any rate, I'm sooooooooo glad this isn't a problem for us.