Anyone else nervous about leaving first child to have second?

They had similar rules at our local hospitals but so many expectant mothers complained that they finally made an exception for older siblings visiting new babies. You may want to talk to your doctor or the head of the birthing unit to find out if you can get special permission. You may have to agree to take certain precautions (extra hand washing, masks, etc.) but it is worth a try.

If you are still not able to have your daughter there you might consider bringing a laptop and webcam to the hospital so you can at least see your daughter and show her the baby. If you don't have one you could ask around and maybe borrow one.

I just had my second baby and the restrictions were not in place so my older child was able to visit. Honestly, she just played with the "big sister" gifts people gave her and didn't really pay much attention to me or the baby. Having so much family and commotion around I think they kind of get lost in it all and distracted by it. You will probably have better bonding time as a family and be able to give your older daughter more love and attention once you are home anyway.

When I had my 2nd, it was very difficult even though my little girl (aged 3 then) was allowed to visit. Even the 1st time she came up-less than 24 hours since I'd last seen her, she suddenly seemed so big and so distant and it broke my heart. I was only in the hospital for 2 1/2 days, but it seemed like an eternity. Everybody who had gone through that told me it was normal to feel that way and that once I got home and settled, things would go back to normal and they were right. When I had my 3rd, the hospital could release you in 24 to 48 hours. I begged my doc to let me go home as soon as I reached the 24 hours and he did. I told him that it was harder on me being away from my other kids and convinced him that I was a-ok physically and mentally. It was great going home! Just know that what you are feeling is normal and there have been millions of moms and firstborns that have gone through this and everything will be fine. It is a big change and an adjustment but it is perfectly doable. Treasure the time you have in the hospital with your 2nd born b/c that is about the only time you will ever have JUST with him or her and know that your little girl will be fine b/c kids are very resilient. Just think what it must have been like back in the 60s when my mom had me and women stayed in the hospital for a week without getting to see their other kids! Wow. Good luck, God bless, and don't worry. Be secure in the knowledge that you and your daughter will be fine so that you can enjoy the time with the new little joy in your life.

I'm a little worried about it, especially since I'm not sure what the rules are at this hospital. My husband is in the Navy and we're about 1600 miles away from the hospital where I had our daughter. I might be able to sneak home early to have my baby at that same hospital, but getting back home would be a pain so not sure I want to go that route. :P

It took us a while to have #2 after we started trying, so the daughter is 6 now. I hope they let her in because she's so excited to have a new brother or sister, it would devastate me if she couldn't be there for at least one of the days. My mom will probably come into town for the birth, but as you said, it's just not the same. Plus I want to make sure she knows that just because the new baby is here, she's still my special angel and nothing is going to change except I'll be changing dirty diapers a lot. :)

I am nervous as well, very sad that I will be gone for 3 days and she wont be with me. I felt bad when I found out I was pregnant because my daughter means the world to me and I felt that if we had another baby this soon, she is 21 months and I am due on Tuesday, then she would feel left out. Though I have had alot of reasurrance from other mothers who have children closer or the same time apart, I feel a little better. I am mainly nervous about what will happen after we get home like how will my little one react or how will she handle the situation? Will she feel neglected becasue we will pay a little less attention to her? But then I think that we will do fine.

I cant wait to have our little boy, but I will miss my little girl very much while I am gone. We are lucky enough to be able to have her in the hospital at the time of his arrival, unlike you. So I know that must be hard for you because it would for me if I wouldnt be able to haver her there. Good Luck and congradulations.

I too am scared about this, my mother and father will have her and they are really the only people I trust my 20 month old with, I am due in 4 weeks and i have NEVER been away from my daughter longer than one night. while I am in labor my father will probably have her because my mom wants to be there for me and my boyfriend will be with me too but i just don't know about than many days away from my little girl.

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