Why would someone who knows me in real life, and seems fine with me, refuse a Facebook Friend Request.?

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This person has a facebook profile, goes to my church, and is friends with most of my friends on Facebook.  We both homeschool our kids, and talk to each other at church.  I sent a friend request to both her and her husband, and both chose to delete the request without accepting it.  Needless to say, it has me wondering if the friendly chit-chat at church is all fake and they really can't stand me.

I know they both refused the request because first on her profile it went back to saying, "Add to Friends", then a couple of days later his did the same thing.

I guess it really doesn't matter, but it does make me wonder about the reason... oh well, I guess its better to know where I stand.

Dana · Accepted Answer

Awwwhhh, isn't that a sad feeling? I'm thinking that either they don't want some of their business known to certain ppl. I know that I have not added certain co-workers because they aren't very pleasant in the office and quite frankly I dont trust them knowing that my status may say, "I should play hooky 2mr from work",, or something along those lines.. even though I dont put negative statuses.. some ppl do.

And honestly Blessed, if they ignored it, I would take heed to it and I would limit my  conversation with them. You know .. use reverse pyschology.. when they speak, I would merely speak [ or not, we're not going to hell if I dont speak back] and keep it moving.. and totally ignore them around others friends at church.. However ,if they not really actively socializing with you outside facebook, then they probably have reservations on being friends ;-(


Keep ur head up and moving forward...you probaly are a great person, and they are the ones missng out on a really great friend.. hit me up on facebook.. I'll be ur penpal!     **Teri Swinton**

hsfromthestart · Answer

People have a lot of reasons for not friending someone on social networks.  Some limit their circle of friends online to family only, or to very close friends only.  Maybe it isn't that they don't like you but maybe they are afraid you'll be offended (or at least they'll be embarrased) by some things that they have on their page.

Choose not to be easily offended by it.  You might ask them about it.  Or just let it slide...

Janis B · Answer

I agree with earlier response.  Maybe there are things that they want to keep hidden from their church friends.      Then again, they may use facebook for family or  particular group.

I would not take it personal.   At least... I don't think I would.   Don't delete me from your friends list to check me out on that one.    : )

Dragon · Answer

Hi Dear

You come to this world alone and will go alone.
don't let petty things bog you, life is too short.
consider yourself as Blessed that they did not add you as a friend
for a known foe is better than an unknown friend

hghostinme · Answer

well why don't you ask them at church ?

Sometimes those requests get lost and and are not received at all , even tho they appear to get deleted or denied.

Could be other reasons, but nothing wrong with being honest and upfront with people...ASK them,
it really is that simple

bonacker · Answer

Trust in the Lord's prayer...
"Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us..."
Often times, we do not understand why people do what they do.  It is because we do not see the big picture of life.  Accept your interaction with your friends and move on.  God knows what's best!

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Why would someone who knows me in real life, and seems fine with me, refuse a Facebook Friend Request.?

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