grandparents smoking around my newborn son...?

I wouldn't let them smoke near my full term baby let along a PREMIE who is at SERIOUS risk for RSV and other complications. I would tel them that fine, you will not bring the baby to their house anymore - I bet they will change their tune.

Whatever you do, do not give in. It is not good for a baby to be around smoke. My grandpa smoked cigars around my dad and my dad got adult onset ashma and has horible asthma now which the dr said was from the ciger smoke from when he was younger.

Stand your ground. Smoking around a newborn is very dangerous. From lung infections to ear infections. And it is not ok. My hubby smokes outside and if grandparents can't respect your wishes with a two year old they are not going to do it with the baby either. I would wait till at least 1 year to allow to stay away from you for any longer than just a day.

That is HORRIBLE. Especially since he was premature. I mean it's just a matter of caring about him, they don't care if he has black lungs by age 4? How awful. I will never allow anyone to smoke around my children when I decide to have kids. My mom and dad both smoke, but they have never once smoked in the house my entire life because of how bad it is for children. I think you should tell them how awful it is for your sons health. If they care about your son they will stop being such selfish, stubborn, narcicists and take it to another room or outside even.

Your husband should speak to them about it. If they won't stop, then I wouldn't take him to their house then. If they wish to see him, they can come to your house where they will have to follow your rules. It is silly that they would let this start an arguement, but you have to do what is best for your child. No matter who is involved.

Maybe once they see you are serious, they will go back to not smoking around him at their house.

They are being very selfish but it is their house so I would just stop visiting and not allow your husband to take the baby. If they want to see him they need to come to you (where you shouldn't even let them smoke in the house) or come grovelling and ask you back to the house and them not smoke round baby.

Considering your son was premature, i'd say they're being a bit selfish even if it is their own home. I wouldn't take my child to their house again for a looooong time.

i completely agree with you, they should not smoke around him. my husband family is the same way,kind of, if im there they dont do it but if we let her watch my son we get back and he smells like smoke. if i were you i would tell them "either stop smoking around my son or we wont bring him over here anymore" if they really love him like they should they will stop.

Are they crazy? It's obvious that they don't care about your premature baby. I would leave the house.. But if you have no where else to go, I don't know what else to say.. They obviously don't care.

Well then don't take your baby there - they sound like selfish people.