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Would you Confront?????????
To make a long story short my friends ditched me when I started dating my boyfriend.No matter what lengths I went to to keep the friendships alive they we just never returned (lame, I know). About two weeks ago my boyfriend ran into two of my former friends and started chatting. According to one of the friends he felt that the friendships falling apart was 'foolish' and he was open to bridging the gaps that have formed. About a week later my boyfriend and I extend an invite to that friend for an outing, he said he was available, all seemed to be going well. The day of we tried to contact him various times... mostly without luck and once he answered the phone and said 'i'll call you right back' .. he never did. We went out and had a great time but I am left feeling like maybe I should say something. How hard is it to make phone call and say 'hey, Im not gonna be able to make it.'?? I was just going to chalk it up to ' he doesn't really want to mend the friendships' and not talk to him again but he is the type of person who will definitely let someone know that he doesn't agree with their behaviors... so it kinda makes me want to point out his lack of ettiquite. What would you do??
** I'm sorry I guess I should have emphasized that I dont see my former friends anymore. They completely cut me out.
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- 123456?Lv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
I agree with the first comment, you should confront him politely saying "I was trying to contact you the other night and you never got back to me, I thought we had plans and I am somewhat upset that you just blew me off? I would have been understanding had something else come up, but it would have been courteous of you to at least inform me so I didn't spend my evening waiting on you, or thinking you MIGHT turn up." Especially if you say he is the type person who will definitely let someone know that he doesn't agree with someone, then he should be able to take your criticism about his lack of manners by not getting back to you.'
Some people are just "careless" or feel they can brush things off and if they don't deal with the situation then it just goes away, the fact of the matter is, things don't just disappear, you were left waiting around therefore, he needs to hear from you that it was disrespectful and that him calling you would have made everything ok.
- theacrobLv 61 decade ago
Confront him when you see him, in a caring way. "Where were you that night? We were worried since you said you would come out with us, and then we couldn't get a hold of you. Is everything okay with you?"
This will force his hand.