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JenV
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JenV asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 1 decade ago

Is it rude to decline an offer of "lunch money," and instead ask to reschedule?

The owner of the small business I work for occassionally treats me (and sometimes, others in the office), to lunch. On occassion, when she has something else come up on a day she had planned to treat me to lunch, or if she's simply not feeling well, she will give me money and tell me that I can treat myself to lunch on her for the day. If I genuinely enjoy the opportunity to spend some time with her more than the meal, would it be rude of me to decline her offer of "lunch money" and tell her that I would prefer to reschedule for some time when we could both enjoy the meal together?

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    Actually in most polite societies it is deemed polite to decline a gift the first time it is offered. In Japan for example it is considered polite to reject the gift twice and not accept until/unless it is offered a third time.

    In this particular instance it all depend on how you word your rejection of the offer. If you were to say:

    "Keep your money. I'll just wait for a better time."

    It could be considered rude. However, if you were to say:

    "Thanks for the offer, but I think I'd rather take a rain-check and have lunch with you some other time."

    It is more likely to be better understood, and better received.

    Source(s): Been on both ends of this stick before. It's a tough balancing act.
  • 1 decade ago

    I think you have answered your own question. It is definitely not rude to put it like that. If anything it is a little rude to take the money without going to lunch with her lol

  • Aporia
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I would graciously decline with "Oh, that's alright, I'd prefer to wait until you're feeling better and go with you." Not rude, in fact, it's far more polite than taking the money.

  • Kim
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    It's always rude to decline a gift, you'll have to be very careful with the wording.

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    I don't think it would be rude at all. In fact it's more of a compliment.

  • Not at all. I would, however, wipe the brown stuff off your nose before returning to work though.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    It's not rude at all :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think that's very nice and would certainly please her.

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