Just found out something terrible, do I send a facebook message?

This is touchy. The younger brother may not know about the older brother's arrest or the details. So, sending your intended message may be shocking or upsetting.

I suggest/recommend sending a message saying you had been thinking about him lately and hope all is well. If he responds, then, maybe go from there.

Send the message via e-mail and don't post it to his Facebook page or wall. The less conspicuous, the better.

It is tacky. Also, being "charged with" and being "convicted of" are two entirely different things. Here in the US we have a very important part of the constitution which states "A person is innocent until proven guilty".

He may very well have committed these horrible offenses....and if so deserves to be castrated and imprisoned for life. But using a social network to gossip about it is in very poor taste. If you fear that he may have used someone you know for child porn, speak with them personally.

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You can say you are sorry about his families difficulties, but leave off all references to his brother.

I think you should be quiet about it. It's a terribly embarrassing time for the whole family. Don't bring it up unless he does, please.