INTERRACIAL DATING; GOOD IDEA OR DISASTER?

Question

Recently, I've began dating outside my race. Im 21, open minded, all about being happy and enjoying my life. During and since high school, I've been having the worst of luck with guys. I thought it was the age factor, so I started to date older guys. That turned out to be a disaster. So I took the advice of friends and family, specifically my brothers, and dated guys from different locations. Negative!. Then, i started to self evaluate, naturally because not having a successful dating record will make you do that. Anyways, I realized that I really wasn't being true to myself and that I'd put off thoughts and chances to date guys who weren't black simply because of my old school, strict and muslim dad, uncles and other men in my family who firmly believe that I should stay inside my race. They raised us to be this way, and out of 10 children, I'm the only one of my siblings who has dated another race. Generally,the women in my family couldn't care less. They thought it was a good idea. They were happy for me.
  So over the last 6 months I've met and connected with many guys, and I have to say, the experience made me give up completely on black guys, nothing against them, but I get much better treatment, appreciation, respect and affection. I work in a very popular retail place, and meet alot of different characters, but I mostly meet guys who are just as open minded as I am and just as attracted and interested in me. My father and brothers don't accept my decisions and I've found out that they are very racist people. I love my family but I dont know what to do. I hate not being able to bring my boyfriend around, simply because my family still lives in an unacceptable mindset. I explained to them that my preference is all about my being happy, not about money or bitterness. Its just that other races see things in me that black guys dont care to see. White guys treat me better, ****like i'm worth getting to know****. For example, when I meet a black guy, we exchange numbers, THEY ALL end up texting me later in the evening, "hey lil mama, remember me, this is ___, when u gon come to my crib and kick it wit me? can u come tonight?" In the words of Steve Harvey, ' Do I look like I wanna be kicked?' White guys take my number and call later, we talk, they get to know me, I get to know them. And then they ask, " When can I take you out? When will I see you? ***What would YOU like to do?***"
 In my experience, I've noticed that black guys are OK, but most or should I say all that I've dated simply dont treat me with the respect I deserve as a lady. Most are shallow, some only want to sleep with me because they cant see that beyond my physical features, my sexy body, pretty face and nice assets, is a smart young lady, with morals, values, INDEPENDENT pride and inindividuality. My parents raised me to be the kind of girl a man can take out, take home to meet his parents and take Me seriously before he tries to take me home. Thats who i am and thats what makes me happy.
 What do you think about my situation?

FLguy · Accepted Answer

Do you want to hear the truth ?  Race does matter. I'm open mined and I dated people from other race before. And I noticed people just give me that look when I took black girl into restaurants. White waiters doesn't care much about our orders. It might be just busy. But I felt like we had been treated different. I guess people afraid to say things negative about blacks up frront.  They all say, "oh, race doesn't matter".  When it's come to pick a place to live. People (include blacks) will try to avoid rental area where there are blacks. The reason is obvious. Blacks have bad reputation and they looked the same. 

But personally, my best dating experience are with a black girl. Some how, I love her so much that her skin color don't matter to me. I like her sexy body, smooth skin and she cooks good.

Anonymous · Answer

Why Interracial Dating Is Good

..Chris_Is_ · Answer

why is this question so long? there is NOTHING wrong with interracial dating, but it's okay to have a type. just date the person that you like the most and who respects you the most. if you say that all the black guys you've dated don't treat you right then maybe you've been dating the wrong black guys. and who cares what your family thinks? you should date the guy who YOU like.

Anonymous · Answer

In my opinion, no matter what race he is if he isn't treating you the way you want to be treated then move to the next guy. A lot of guys think the have to be a "G"(gangster) , and that's not what most women what. I think you'll find "The Guy" for you that meets all your needs no matter what race he is.

©@$h · Answer

I think you should stick with white guys. they seem to treat you better and talk normal. not all but most blacks will talk gangster  and have no respect. because of black history and how they was treated with being slaves.  i can understand most blacks having no respect for white people but for women... that had nothing to do with slavery.  maybe for the no reason they hate women they hate white people to and use slavery as an excuse .

? · Answer

I love how you are only talking about white guys. Doesn't really seem like you're open minded at all honestly. You're generalizing a whole community of white and black people without looking at individuals. I've met black dudes that are way more gentle, friendly, sincere, authentic, etc. than white people, and vice-versa. You mask yourself as an open minded people as an excuse to racially categorize two whole races. Also, you seem to be only interested in white guys. Seems like you have an identity issue. Before you say I'm a bitter black dude, I'm actually an Asian guy. I just hate how people judge people just based on race. I date all races of girls and never consider race as a factor.

Anonymous · Answer

Interracial dating is fine. Ignorance & fear is what drives people to say  & think otherwis. Who cares what people think. I've had numerou g/f's & they have all been latina. I can care less what people have to say or think. Follow your heart sweetie.

? · Answer

Probably it's good

? · Answer

its no good nor bad.
i mean
we are all humans.
have vag*** or pe***.
these are all that matter in a relationship
plz dont get caught up with a bias your background has been forcing onto you

Anonymous · Answer

skin color doesn't matter

Trending News

INTERRACIAL DATING; GOOD IDEA OR DISASTER?

10 Answers