What to do in this situation ? serious question....?

I think that if your dad has forgiven her then you should as well. Talk things through and tell her how much her behaviour upset and hurt you and how much you probably hated her for it then build bridges. Life`s too short to hold grudges. Try to get your relationship back to what it was but let her know that she`ll be in the wrong big time if she ever disrespects and upsets your dad like that again.

If she`s any sort of a sister she`ll admit she was wrong and then it`s time to hug and make up.

We all make mistakes, believe me I have made many when it comes to family. However, they have forgiven me and I thank God for this. I come from a very large family and we have lost sisters and brothers, neices and nephews, aunts and uncles and just these past few years we lost our mother too. Life is so very short to blow it on anger. It doesn't make you weak to forgive another person. Matter of fact it is the hardest thing to do. Being angry is easy!! Call your sister and don't talk about that, just say HELLO. Baby steps but steps that lead in the right direction. This would make your father very happy I believe and isn't that what it is all about? Happiness? Move on and grow as a family. The time is now my friend not tomorrow because we don't know what tomorrow holds. I tell you this for one reason. I am being told that I have cancer and I am okay with that because I have my family back these days and it all started with forgiveness. It is a wonderful thing and it will heal everything. Love is powerful and I am betting on this with my life. You can do this! you just have to pick up the phone. Don't think to much and just do it out of love for you father and for yourself. Your sister has beaten herself up more than you could ever do to her. Let is go and start a new day. Good luck and God bless you and your family.

What you are doing, I expect, is not only hurting your sister, but you, too. It's also probably hurting your Dad a great deal. He doesn't want this for his daughters.

You need to forgive. You need to also see if there's something you need to ask her forgiveness for. Do some soul searching.

Time heals all wounds. Invite her to coffee. Send an email if you don't want to call. Get a family member to tell her you want to make up with her. It will start the ball rolling even if you still have to make that first move.

Go to the next family dinner and just give her a hug and say you miss her. Do you have to talk it all out? Maybe it needs to just go away?

Good luck. In the end, family is all we have. Keep yours close if you can.

If you are feeling bad about this, then it's time to rethink the reasons why you are still doing something that is cause you pain & inner turmoil. Sounds like you made your point & now there's not much reason to keep it going.

Buy or bake a big old gooey chocolate cake (or something you both love) & take the thing to her & stuff your faces until you're ready to barf & soon you'll be laughing again. It will take some time, but your grudges will fade away & your relationship with your sister can be on a more mature level this time around.

I don't think you are egotistical. It sounds more like you are stubborn & way too hard on yourself. You did your duty, now it's time to drop your weapon because the war is over!☺

I am really sorry for your hard feelings.

I had very hard feelings with my brother, many issues. I finally decided to forgive, and just be his sister. He has never apologized and I am sure he never will, but since I know the awful things he said to me were very wrong it was difficult to not revisit the issues. I realized nothing would be gained. We e-mail each other and because we have very similar principles and political opinions, it seems I feel he sees me as a more credible person than what he had imagined.

Because it was a result of an issue between her and your dad, I would leave it there. Should she bring the subject up for discussion, briefly tell her how you felt, but then leave it alone.

Look at all the time that has been wasted that you will never get back. Has it really been worth the alienation? We should forgive, but not necessarily forget. Your dad set the example with his forgiveness. If what she did was aimed at him, and he has found forgiveness, what is holding you back? I would say it is time to sit down and have a 'civil' talk with her. If something would happen to either one of you, how would that make either of you feel? Your last sentence saying you miss everything you had as sisters says it all. You should tell your sister this too, forgive, then move on with your relationship with her. Life is too short. JMO

Seems like whatever happened was between your sister and your father. Not your business.

I had an older sister that pulled all sorts of BS over the years put I still always forgave her since she was family.

She passed away yeas ago from an asthma attack. It was a sudden death and at the time once again, everyone in the family was pissed at her for one of her antics.

I would give anything to tell her I forgive her for pulling some crap for the millonth time.

There is always a "black sheep"in the family. they need more love then you think.

Life is too short. People die every day who 4 wks ago were in perfect health or for that matter had no health problems.

It seems like a lot of pressure is on the oldest sister. So get a box of Fannie Mae Chocolates--if they can be found anywhere anymore---if not buy her a big box of candy and flowers and make peace.

Oh come on! You've got a stubborn streak a mile wide. If everyone else is willing to let bygones be bygones, then it really makes you appear to be an "old poop" now doesn't it? It doesn't mean you have to be long, lost buddies, just knock down a wall and start from scratch. You'll feel a whole lot better and so will everyone else in the family.

Honest to gosh, just suck it up and forgive her and give her a big hug. Life is too short to hold grudges. This answer comes from personal experience with a few members of my family. Your sister has reached out to you and you should reach back, especially if your father has seen fit to do so. You will feel so much better and that hole in your life will be filled up with love.