My co-workers don't like my husband........help?

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I need a little advice on something.

Last summer, before we got married, my now-husband and I were having some problems. On one occasion, he hit me and ended up giving me a black eye. This was the first and only time he ever laid a hand on me. We ended up separating for a period of time (about a month). A few people at my work, (my boss, her boss and a few co-workers) knew what was going on and were worried. However, he (my now-husband) wanted to work things out. I still loved him (we have been together for over seven years) and told him that the only way I'd take him back would be if both of us sought counseling to work out our problems. He accepted and things started to smooth out. We got back together and got married. We have been really happy together and things have been wonderful.

My problem is that the people at my work who knew what was going on are still concerned. One co-worker despises my husband and won't give him the time of day. I know that my boss and her boss are hesitant around him, although I've reassured them that things are great. The other co-worker who knew what was going on has gotten to know my husband very well and adores him. I just wish everyone else felt the same way. 

What are your thoughts on this? How can I reassure my co-workers that my husband is a great guy? I know I can't change the way they feel, but things feel awkward whenever my husband is around them.

Brittney · Accepted Answer

Personally i wouldnt care , at the end of the day you go home to him , your co-workers dont go home with you -.- lol eventually they will come around , hey we all make mistakes and if its working out , just be happy about it !

Anonymous · Answer

Well, I'm split two ways on your questions. First off: its really not your coworkers business about what goes on in your marriage. You don't need to answer to them about anything personal. 

On the other hand-the guy gave you a BLACK EYE! Of course they are going to be concerned about what's really going on and whether you really are okay. They might feel that you are hiding stuff about how you really are. All they saw was the black eye-not how "great a guy" you say he is. I know its an old saying...but actions speak louder than words. 

But if he's really changed and you really aren't being abused-then don't worry about what they think. I just hope you really are okay and not in denial.

Heaven&#39;s Messenger · Answer

The question is how do people at work know your personal business? Unless your husband works there or you talk too much then they couldn't know could they. Learn to keep your personal business out of the work place or either move all your co-workers into your home, your choice.

Margot · Answer

There is no magic solution.  The feelings of awkwardness around your co-workers is one of the consequences that he will have for having punched you in the face.  Too bad for him.  There are consequences for bad behavior and he will have to accept that everyone else is not as forgiving of his domestic violence as you are.  

Hopefully that awkward feeling that he has...knowing that not only do people know what he did but are judging him negatively for it, will prevent him from ever laying a hand on you again.

Amy · Answer

its ur business but if u came to my work with a black eye I would beat you up then ask u if u really like it.. why on earth wouldnt u get a bat and beat the crap out of him...

Glad everything is better but if it EVER happens again Im telling u right now u better grow apair... a man putting his hand on a woman deserves a bat to the back of the head..

I would be a B*tch if someone ever thought that was okay!

Anonymous · Answer

anyone who says this is an abusive relationship is a moron.  Abuse means constant.  A time incident doesn't warrant being called abuse.  Your co-workers are morons.

? · Answer

That's the stigma a wife beater carries with him.
why is he always at your job?Is he that controlling? Sounds like something more is going on and he wants to make sure you don't open your mouth to your coworkers, is that why he is always there?

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry, my dear, your the one your co-workers should avoid.  Your in a abusive relationship and do not even care, your interested in your poor abusive husbands feelings.  I feel so very sorry for you.

Quasimodo · Answer

Whats your husband doing hanging around at your job? I don't do that at my wife's place of employ and she doesn't at mine.

Sheniquah Loves Facebook · Answer

my thought is that he is an abuser
i also think you are battered woman making excuses for wut he did

if you wont to be with him dont expect the co workers to be supportive, cuz they shouldn't

regardless you do wut you please and dont worry about others
but you should leave him

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