Toddler self stimulation / masterbation how to manage?

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Ok so I have a 3 year old daughter who I am 100% positive has never been sexually abused. Ever since she potty trained and started wearing Cotton panties a year ago she has laid on her favorite stuffed animal and gyrated on it. When it first started happening I called her Dr. and he said it was normal. He sent me Information about it. It told me never discipline the act of masturbating its self, but tell the child to not do it in front of people instead go to there room and do it in private only.  It use to be just at nap time in private.  Then she would disappear to her room for 10 min or so at a time and i would find her in her room on top of her animal and she would be all flush in the face and out of breath. Then she started doing it in the living room. So I would send her to her room to do it. My problem now is she wont even sit through a movie with out saying Mommy pause the movie so i can go to my room. and she will start gyrating her hips out of no where, on the corner of sofa, or on a sofa pillow. and i tell her that's in appropriate and should only be done in her room, but its almost like she cant help her self. or she thinks its funny and does it to get away with it. I am worried about her doing this in public. Even though I have talked with her many times about the appropriate place for it. There have been a few instances in public which I was able to stop quickly, she started gyrating on a toy at a mall play area one day I pulled her off it and said that's not appropriate and said go play with something else. She has even gone so far as to gyrate on my leg which I scolded her for and said that is very inappropriate and you don't do that.

I guess I am feeling out of options, I feel embarrassed and worried what people will think if my daughter does this and they see it. To avoid some embarrassment I did notify my daughters sunday school teachers, and told them to stop her if she does the behavior in class. The Dr. said it is a stage and its normal, but not all toddlers do this. I try to explain to some of the moms i have play groups with and some have disowned me as though my daughter will hurt there kid. or something. I feel like pulling my hair out! Any one else have a child that progressively masturbated more, how did you deal with it? any other advice?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i feel for your situation but there is no way i would even allow my 3 year old daughter to masterbate in her bedroom or have alone time. im sorry to say i dont think this is a 'normal' situation and it should be addressed by a health professional

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Toddler self stimulation / masterbation how to manage?
Ok so I have a 3 year old daughter who I am 100% positive has never been sexually abused. Ever since she potty trained and started wearing Cotton panties a year ago she has laid on her favorite stuffed animal and gyrated on it. When it first started happening I called her Dr. and he said it was...

Ethel · Answer

Just like any other behavior she can control this, if she takes her toy in the living room and does it take the toy away for the day and send her to time out, in the mall or the playground it's time to leave when she's doing that.   Time out does work, as does removing her from the situation, she'll learn it's more fun to play then get in trouble and she will modify her behavior.

BTW all that she does is totally normal, don't be ashamed, just help her find inner discipline for appropriate times and places.

AUDRINAA &lt;3. · Answer

You shouldn't scold her for doing this, but I think it may turn into a problem.
If you google masturbation addiction or sex addiction you'll see a bunch of links. 

I think you should let her know that its okay what shes doing, but not to do it too often, maybe just let her do it at night which she probably will do on her own.

just a mom · Answer

Could you possible tell her something like, "This is okay to do only while in your room, at night" Maybe putting a time on it will help stop her from trying to do it mid-day and while out and about.  

I'm sorry, I'm probably not much help.

KitKat · Answer

instead of trying to control her normal & healthy behaviors, teach her.  she can learn that it's okay to masturbate in her room or bathroom with the door closed.  she can learn that it's not appropriate to masturbate in public.  once you stop drawing attention to the behavior it will lessen.  be sure to also teach her the proper names for her body parts.

mitchell b · Answer

Tell her she cant do it anymore because it can ruin the inside of her... That not a lie she can ruin the inside of her she can ruin/tear up her bladder.. I am a pro. Dr. and i have had kids like her/ babys tear up her bladder and arounds.. maybe your Dr. should of told you to keep her from doing.. your docters cookoo sorry but he is and i have been fully trained but she cant be doing that every 10 minutes she may do it like 1 time a day... Soo at night or when she is takeing a nap watch her you have to soo she dont ruin her bladder.. just email me at mitchellb98@live.com if you need more information..... About it thank you..

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