Why does this man behave this way toward me?

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I'm a nurse.  Very compassionate.  I'm very happily married to very tall hansome faithful man.  For the last three years, when I pick my daughter up from school, one of the fathers (who is a cop, looks like my husband, no, I am so not, or don't look like a criminal), as I walk toward the school, so for 5 minutes, he rotates his entire body toward me, and stares.  
Then once I'm at the yard he faces
 me.  Never initiates conversation.  But evesdrops in on my conversations.  Three years.  He isn't a creep.  I've talked to him a couple of times in the last while,  and he makes NO eye contact, he's 
shifty, very stern, but keeps the conversation going, always about his day to day life.  Never his wife, who I know he 
loves.  But the no eye contact thing makes me feel like I'M 
the one invading HIM.  I saw him in a different setting a few
 weeks ago, where he was in his eliment.  I touched his 
back, he turned (he knew I was there),  he was blushing, 
and stared so deeply into my eyes I felt trapped, he wouldn't let go, and kept talking.  It felt indescent, so I made a polite
 escape.  Then a few days later, at the school yard, the 
staring continued.  Out of confusion I started talking to him,
 and he wouldn't look at me again.  Like usual.  but still talked.  But if he drives by me now, while I'm out for a walk he smiles very intimately at me.  It's not possible to ignore 
him.  Why does he behave this way?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The eyes will tell you what the mouth tries to hide . . .

this guy gives new meaning to the phrase " Person

Of Interest " that's the bad news the worse news, 

your falling for it, hook line and handcuffs . . .

Jake No Chat · Answer

He stares and is shifty and you say that he is not a creep.  It looks like he is trying to get your attention, and is playing it "cool" so that you have to make the first move.  By touching his back, you have done just that.  There is something wrong here and you could be falling into a trap.  You said that your husband was faithful - what are your intentions?  You really seem to be attracted to this person.  As a cop, he likely knows how to act so that the "guilt" will not be put on him.  You should be wary of this situation.

Zee-ster · Answer

I think this man is a creep & that he's lusting after you.  What difference does it make whether he looks like your husband?  It sounds like you're interested in him to be honest.  Stay away from him & don't go playing in traffic.  The way you've written about this & the length of time you have allowed this nonsense to go on makes me wonder if you're not cruising for a bruising.  Avoid this man like the plague & don't worry about whether he might be looking at you.  When he sees you could care less, he'll likely change his game.  That's the ticket, no pun intended.

Donald W · Answer

Seems as if he is being reminded of someone and it makes him nervous "he" is having this reaction.  Men are visual creatures and it doesn't take much  to remind us of past experiences. As it's been three years and he still "creeps you out"  my advice is keep your distance when alone or confront him about his actions and how this affects you. Have you asked around regarding his reaction at your presence? Seems he would move on after three years and find other interest.

Sarah* · Answer

This is easy. 
He has a thing for you. 

If he ever tries to make a move just tell him you're happily married.

Leslie J · Answer

He obviously  has the hot’s  for you but as you are both married it would be inappropriate to act on this.
And by touching his back, you are starting to flirt with him.

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