leave school and go with him? should i marry him?

don't leave school or a job for ANYONE. EVER.

YOU first.

If you are 36 and you have not completed tuition but, it sort of feels to me that you've an limitation of procrastination or awareness, possibly. Leaving tuition is not going to aid. It additionally makes it not going that you are going to go back, and your schooling could be very principal. I had my final little one at 37. She is now 12. I am younger ample to be energetic along with her, correctly, I play and educate her exercises and not using a challenge. She is attaining puberty and I'm handiest forty seven. I consider your math is a little bit off. My recommendation is to buckle down and conclude tuition for those who fairly desire a measure. If you do not, depart tuition and begin your lifestyles with out the measure. I consider you're too scattered approximately reaching matters to your lifestyles. You must make your self awareness, and take your long term one step at a time. It will take you greater than a semester to marry if you have not even met the character but. Don't sacrifice your schooling seeing that you suppose vaguely disenchanted. I additionally consider it's going to be handy to discover a lady external the US who needs to transport to the US and get a inexperienced card. How will you already know that she real loves you, although? US citizenship could be very lovely to many men and women, and you can also discover that you are taken expertise of for those who don't seem to be cautious. EDIT: Wow, Frank, who dumped you??? My wager is, each and every American woman you could have ever dated.

I think you need to take a MAJOR step back and take care of yourself first. If you have unresolved issues that you have not dealt with, no matter how much each other loves the other, these issues WILL raise their ugly heads and cause many many heartaches for yourself - let alone for others.

I would seriously look at going to see a Certified Christian Counsellor for guidance and help.

Read I Corinthians Chapter 13 of the Bible - it's referred to as the love chapter and in there it says very clearly what love is.

Love is kind, love is generous, love NEVER seeks it's own way, LOVE always protects - Love never hurts, and love NEVER is PATIENT.........

Better for you to spend time to " heal yourself with God's help " then to jump into a marriage because he is putting pressure on you to marry him by June.............

What's the hurry, IF it's true love ........ he will wait patiently

I would rather have my future wife be " well " and for me to support her during that time ( 6 months, 1 year , 2 years ) however long it takes to get better emotionally / mentally.

All the best...................... think about things seriously ................. LOVE is a CHOICE NOT a feeling !

If you have to ask, you aren't ready. It sounds to me like you are a couple fit for a meaningful marriage. There is a lot of love and support on his part. You said that you are trying to work through a lot of problems right now. I think that before you marry you need to be comfortable with yourself. You also said that you think he deserves better. Finishing school will give you something to be proud of and ultimately strengthen the relationship. I say yes, marry him...just not now. Wait until you are finished with school. There will be plenty of opportunities throughout your life to visit his country. Don't rush!!

You sound like you have a lot of issues and doubt and despite how much you love his support you should not marry him until you get right with you. It's not fair to marry someone when you are as unsure of things as you are.

Lets say you get married and he helps you get the help you need to get past your own issues? What are you going to do if at that point YOU realize that he's not right for you? Not becuase he can do better but becuase you two just aren't right and you were unconscionsly using him for the support he gave you?

Do not marry until you get your head right. If he's the one then he'll still be there when you're ready.

Stop following your brain and start following your heart more. Follow your heart, not your brain. Stop thinking yourself into a lonely and dark corner, that's not living life, no matter what you've been through, live your life. Follow your heart and he'll follow his, I have faith that he loves you, don't break his heart. Just because you've been hurt, it doesn't mean you should hurt him, he loves you and you love him, don't hurt yourself any further. This was meant to be, follow your heart.

Life is not a shallow experience, some one wronged you and hurt you and that sucks but you are living your life with this guy, you love each other and you should go on living your life together. It's what you both want.

You've been hurt and mistreated, now its time to turn the tables and you have a choice to change your life right now. Just say yes, it's a lot of your choice, he'll say yes too. This is your moment to rise above it all and just follow your heart and say yes...

All you have to do is say yes and you can live a life of joy and happiness, all God wants from you is for you to start thinking with your heart and move on with your life, this is your chance, this guy loves you, he won't mistreat you.

This is your moment, your therapy, YOUR LIFE, are you going to let your past continue to haunt you or are you finally going to take this final stand and say YES to life?

It's your choice.

Don't wait around forever, your problems will get worse if you put them off forever. There's no need to put space inbetween you and YOUR LIFE... If this is what you want then you deserve it! He wants you, he wants to marry you, don't deny that feels good... He wants you to be his woman.

All you have to do is be yourself, don't convince yourself that there's nothing left, or you'll never be good enough for him, you'll die alone. He loves you for you and he wants you to say his... he's waiting for you and your heart to say yes.

Say it. There's still vale and worth in you, enough for him to be in love with you, enough to marry you, just say yes...you know you love him and he loves you.

Don't be afraid to take charge of your life and pull yourself from the wreckage, he's giving you a chance, you can do this. You can do this, he wants you to do this, you want to do this...

Others are going to tell you that you can't do this, that you may not work out. He believes in you, he loves you, he desires to be with you, he wants you as a wife.

You know you love him too, don't listen to what others say, listen to and follow what's in your heart, isn't all that mental abuse what got in this self doubt and self destructive behavior to begin with? He loves you for who you are as a person he wants to marry you.

You love him too, you need him, you want him, you want to be with him...don't let other people with their ideas come between you and him. Follow your heart. You know this can be, you know he wants this to be and you want it too.

Everyone has problems, no one is perfect, you know you want this marriage, you need this marriage and building a relationship where personal space is less of an issue and it's more intimate sounds just like the therapy you need.

Some people here will tell you to give up on yourself wait another 10 years to marry this guy, you're dsyfunctional and can't wed. It's all lies, you know that he loves you for you and you know that no one is perfect and you know that you have to start living your life and that you NEVER FELT BETTER WITH THIS GUY, so why shouldn't you be with him?

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Some people here are so sheltered, they haven 't a clue, what the world is like. They look at you and see someone who should be alone forever, PLEASE. Do you know that as someone who's been hurt, and is deep into thought you have the ability to be a very compassionate and considerate lover? Did you know that during a marriage, people can run into issues and problems, A DUH PEOPLE, get over yourselves! Just because you have some problems early on it doesn't mean that you don't deserve to be with the man you love and don't deserve happiness.

Most married couples to all married couples have problems throughout marriage, they work through it because they love one another, just like he is working through it with you now.

Don't listen to these people, they don't understand how the real world works, they haven't lived it.

Some one has a blind fold in front of their eyes where only people can love one another without problems, issues, they are clueless. If he loves you for you and you love him then that's the real deal.

Love doesn't take place in a perfect world, quite the opposite!