Why dontt i feel comfortable around boys?

I think you have a good line on the cause of your problem. Most lucky girls learn how to build relationships with males by starting with their fathers. They learn the "ground rules" of how to interact with boys there, and you didn't have that. (Sorry that you lost your dad so early, what a gap.) Plus, you have picked up, I think correctly, that depending on a guy takes away some of your independent choice that might lead to a great career like the women you admire. And certainly you already have gotten society's line that values men and their ambitions decisively above women's. Look, don't worry about it. Just concentrate on becoming as smart and well educated as you can be, and a man of quality will recognize you and seek you out. In the meantime, "boys" are just looking for what they can get, and you are correctly on guard about them. (This is what I tell my teen daughter.) I think you're tongue-tied because you don't know any reason why you should condescend to them. And you shouldn't have to. If a guy can't make you feel at ease he isn't worthy of you (and most boys your age are like Michael above, LOL. "Duh, I don't read much, duh, wanna do it?") Yours is the left-out feeling of the truly superior person. Don't worry about it. In college (I KNOW you'll go to college, and probably a very good one) you'll be much more in your element among real men and people who appreciate you properly. Hold out for it. Maybe in high school you can find one sensitive guy friend who will be your confidante until that happens for you. There's nothing permanent wrong with your situation. You'll look back on these awkward days and laugh a silvery, self-assured, beautiful laugh about it that will delight the handsome, self-assured, successful man you've chosen. Good luck to you both.

Well, how old are you? Some people just become comfortable with the opposite sex a little later than the rest. No worries. I also lost my dad at an early age; not as early as you but I KNOW how it may interfere with relationships, but don't let it stop you from living your life. You probably just need to talk to some guys just to get you opened up. Other than that, you don't have to be in a relationship right now so don't even let that worry you. The fact that you stop liking the boy the moment it gets to the point of an actual relationship probably just means that you just don't like them that much. It has happened to me before, and I promise you, one day you will accept someone you really like as your boyfriend. For now, enjoy your youth, sweetheart.

Maybe you've just answered your own question. Sounds like you don't need a guy since you and your family sound so strong and confident but at the same time make sure you're not too closed off that could be a problem! You could be just closed of because you're not used to men so you don't know how to act around them.

Well, you may just be weighing your options. I had a similar problem. I wouldn't be able to talk to guys. However, you should start to slowly start talking to them and ease into it. Don't jump in unless you've learned to swim. Also about you independent woman, you may know that you don't need a guy and may just be acting on crushes, not reliable realtionships if you know what I mean. It is good to be selective and not just go out with whoever you have a crush on, and I think that may be what you are doing. However, I also "stop liking" whoever I was about to go out with. Turns out I was just nervous because I didn't know what I was doing. Just try it out. If you're afraid, don't go into a full out relationship. Date here and there. And remember, even though you want to be with a guy... you DO NOT need to be in a relationship. You should be happy with yourself first. Then tackle yourself in other relationships. :)

Maybe you just have to break out and just talk leave the like shell and become different than your other female influences. Also its important to have a successful life but the fact that your tongue gets all tied up is just a mind game its all in you head. Just try small... i mean like get guy friends some guys are just easy to talk to then try meeting other guys that you don't know. It looks like its just a mind game your having trouble with but good luck!!

hmmm, well who would think it be cause you grew up with just women. I think you would want a male companion. Like a need of a brother just a male figure. So, let loose and have fun enjoy male relationships you have to give it a try , but first you got to relax. good luck!

Its maybe your father since your father is a guy and that I think reminds you of your father so I think thats why you feel uncomfortable around boys.

I know exactly how you feel. Try holding regular conversations with guy you aren't attrected to because well boys are boys. This helped me, and I hope it helps you.

I was the same way but when that person comes and the moments there, you wont even know your in love.. your just special @

maybe you are afraid of a relationship