open adoption lies?

I don't believe they are aware that there's a strong possibility that the adoption might close.

Often these aren't social workers anymore either - so many adoptions these days are private and the mothers don' t even get any kind of counseling to make them aware of the long term affects. Adopters sometimes get attorneys who are the ones who now benefit financially and of course they're not going to try to scare off the manufacturer of the product - (mother)

I'm not defending open adoption or any adoption, but I have met lots of young mothers who do try to educate themselves and still choose open adoption. For many years I co-facilitated adoption support groups. We always had a few agencies that suggested that the pregnant young women come to our meetings and speak to first mothers to hear about our experience before making a decision to place their child. Every single mother and some of the adoptees always told them "don't do it you will regret" - but, some changed their minds and some didn't.

And by the way, they don't ALL close. That's why even though I am opposed, I do believe in a woman's right to choose and if she makes a conscious choice to place a child for adoption; that has to be respected.

Adoption should not be unlawful. It enables people who won't be able to have infants get a good looking infant and elevate it and supply it a stable existence. It additionally spares the youngster's existence while lots of folk could choose for abortion if adoption wasn't an determination. Open adoptions, inspite of the undeniable fact that, could be a sprint complicated. i've got faith like lots of adoptive mother and father basically intend to make the adoptive mom happy so promise something and each thing until now the infant is born. lots of companies require the adoptive and beginning mother and father to take a seat and write out a "contract" as to what is going to and is basically no longer allowed interior the open adoption. This contract could desire to be accompanied up until the "decrease off" age, that's frequently additionally agreed upon while the contract is made. Open adoptions can propose one hundred% touch between the youngster and the beginning mom or very constrained touch, basically consistent with how plenty touch the two the adoptive and beginning mother and father are comfortable with.

@Hann.X ~ I also live in the UK and I DO know that social workers aren't always honest. For example I know a natural mother who was promised an open adoption by social services who then caused problems when they found out she was getting more than the one or two letters a year. She got on well with the adoptive parents but it went pear shaped because the social workers found out she was seeing her daughter regularly with aparents permission. Now the aparents are paranoid as they laid it on thick about her suffering with depression and implying she could be a danger to her daughter. I also had contact with the aparents for a while so do know both sides of the story. I have another friend who is having ongoing battles as she is supposed to have an open adoption with regards to her two children who were adopted by the same couple. In the adoption agreement she IS supposed to have an open adoption but the aparents keep refusing to keep to it so every 6 months or so she has to go back to the court. Fortunately one social worker is now helping her as it's affecting her kids who do want to have contact.

Sadly social workers in the UK promise open adoption but in reality British social workers don't really like it.

they really do not care. it actually frightens me, the callousness and greed which motivates ruining peoples lives. capitalism is gone too far her. money money money.

HanX U live in the UK, they are talking about the US where it is run like a business and children are sold AND priced according to their race. women are promised so many things so that they will give up their baby (which the agency can sell, the mother meets a couple who she loves either because they are nice people or they are licking her hole because they basically just want her baby. once she has promised them this baby and received downpayments (ie hospital check up bills, gifts, thank u cards for the 'beautiful gift u are bestowing upon us' - that poor little baby growing inside her doesnt feel like hers anymore and she feels obliged to give the couple her child thinking she will see him grow up and THEN, out pops the baby and the adoptive parents can legally leave the country/town, whatever, and never contact her again.

so im afraid at 15 years of age u have a lot to learn about adoption if u think this question is wrong.

thats why the girls need to carefully go over the contract agreement of exactly how much contact they will allow, my friend was adopted by a open adoption, his mother was 17 when she had him, and luckily he was adopted at three days by his mother, who is a kind loving person and only wants whats best for him, so she allowed the contract to contain frequent visits, so her son could know his mother.

Open adoption is not a lie.

I visit my daughter every summer. I have a relationship with the parents. I get pictures, emails, letters, cards. And I wasn't talked into anything. The nurses at the hospital tried to talk me out of it, why? Because I raised my daughter for nine months before committing to adoption. (I was sixteen)

It is not a lie.

The. END.

Living testimony here, research is good too.

They use words like "open adoption" so they can persuade the birth mothers to give their babies away with the false hope that they can still be a part of the child's life! Its all a scam! the bottom line is if there wasn't any girls giving their babies away, all of the adoption agencies wouldn't be in Business ! Which would be a good thing! but as long as they are in business, they will try every trick in the book to keep making these girls give their babies away!

Its a sad world we live in!

Because, there are people who will do whatever they can to continue adoption, for the money, for the power, or for the control over young women. And, there are people who will continue to do whatever they can to get a baby. Unscrupulous people are unscrupulous people and they simply don't care that lives will be damaged and women and children may be hurt. They want what they want and that is all there is to it!

Sometimes it is a wicked world we live in...

I disagree with you completely I am 15 and have very strong views on adoption as I was adopted myself and I know a lot of adoptees. Before adoption takes place not only are there social workers envolved there are lawyers, doctors and foster carers.

Before they give the baby up for adoption they are fully notified about the possible consequences of open adoption they are in a way and always will be a part of the babies life. I live in Britain so I don't know if it's any different where you live but the biological parents were able to meet with the parents to decide if they'd like them to adopt me.

Also the biological parents can be sent photos and updates on the baby every couple of years compolsary until the baby is 12 and then after that it's the choice of the adoptive parents (Mine have continued to) The biological parents can also reply to these letters keeping the family up to date with their lives.

The biological parents can give things to the child for them to have when they grow up (My dad gave me a poem, some photos and a necklace and my mum some photos and a teddy bear she had growing up) I have loads of info on them and I've never even met them.

So I think you're wrong in thinking this. As I know from my experiance and the experiance of those who I've spoken to who are adopted (I know a few such as my brother, my best friends stepdad my english teachers daughter, my ex-boyfriends mum) Both their biological parents and mine knew exactly what was going on.

When I'm eighteen I plan on meeting my biological parents as I'll legally be able to then and I know they want too as well from the letters I've recieved.

i would never do open adoption hell id never give my baby up for adoption dont do it keep your baby open adoption doers lie you berly ever git to see your baby