How can I get my son to come with me for visitation?

He's three. You're "different" for a short time and his choice is to stay in the same place. Till he no longer has a choice. So he is using whatever he can to his advantage to stay in the same place. I am guessing you are on speaking terms with his mom, if you are - time to be a parent and communicate with the other parent about what is really going on.

Since there are no bruises or proof of what babyboy is saying, she should know better than to believe him and so far - since she hasn't taken your butt back to court pronto, she sounds like she has a bit of a head on her shoulders. Start talking with her and mention that if she ever, EVER finds something worthy of questioning about how you treat your boy, she should come and question the daylights out of you about it. Make sure you are "united we stand" with treatment of your babyboy. You never have to talk about your personal relationship with her, just keep it about the kiddo and hopefully she'll see that babyboy is being a baby who doesn't like change moreso than doesn't like you.

Then realize that he'll get over it...or at least - keep up what you are doing and eventually he'll learn that it's not his choice at all so he needs to deal.

His mom may be coaching him to behave that way, even if she doesn't mean to. She might be vocalizing about dreading your visit and he picks up on that. It's clear he doesn't feel that way, since he's fine when you get out of her "range". Three year olds are pretty smart critters and are sometimes very intuitive.

In the course of your weekend, you could broach the topic with him. Just talk to him about his crying and how you hope he isn't that unhappy to see you. Gently, without pumping him for information, find out where the tales of physical abuse are coming from. It could be that she's leading him ... "is Daddy mean to you?" "are you afraid of him?" Ask him if next time, maybe he can be happy to see you. I think he'd understand that and if you assure him that you understand how he worries about being away from Mommy, he won't feel any pressure. If my guess is right the little guy is under more pressure than he needs to be already.

Divorce never works very smoothly when a child is involved. All you can do is your best. I hope things go well for you. Best of luck and give that boy a hug, okay?

Go there with a football.

When you see him have a little kick about (even though he's only 3 he'll still appreciate a football!)

That's what i'de do anyways.

The "Go there with a football" guy is on to something, simple as that sounds. I would consider showing up with something fun like that, and perhaps even taking it further -- after the kickabout, pretend you're about to leave, without him. At that age the odds are decent, I think, that he'd freak and insist on going with you.

He's 3......

He wants all his mums attention all of the time....

Don't take it personally.......

It's completely normal!

Remind the ex of the court order, and just put him in the car. If she refuses, notify the courts, and she'll be in contempt of court.