how do i get my common law hubby to understand money isnt everything?

You are right!!

When you have teenagers, the physical work is less, but the mental and spiritual and emotional work is tripled. Work might be an 'escape' for your partner or he really might not understand how much work it is raising teens or how important it is to be there.

Sounds to me like you have 3 jobs - your 'paying job', raising the kids AND keeping the house in order.

He has 1 job.

What's fair about that?

Money is a tool that we use to create the lifestyle that we want. That's all it is, although some people think of money as power, it is in a way (buying power etc) but some people think it is a reflection of their self worth.

I worked three jobs to provide for my family. My wife stayed home for a year, then we got day care and she went back to work. I continued to do the three jobs, not out of greed, but to provide the lifestyle that we wanted.

My ex was not great at parenting, in fact, over the long run, she did more damage than not. I don't believe my ex was a typical Mom.

Kids can't raise themselves, they need guidance from 'mature' parents and stability. They will push the boundaries (self assertion), and that's fie, but they sometimes need to be sorted out, by an adult with decent parenting skills. From what you've said here, I think this is where you fit in at the moment. Things change, life is dynamic and your employment situation will change eventually as well.

Tell hubby that this is a temporary situation and it wll change. It might be a bit of a challenge at the moment, but that should pull people together rather than apart.

My ex abused my kids, one of which has not turned out very well. She did this more so after we separated. I think your hubby should be grateful that you are there and doing a job that most men won't (or can't).

Some things can't be bought. (a good Mom)

For everything else, there's mastercard ;-)

i'm uncertain in the journey that your straightforward regulation husband has been clinically determined as bi-polar yet on the grounds which you pronounced his symptoms and not taking suggestion from his medical doctors that's what i will advise. at the beginning. in the twelve years which you have been with your straightforward regulation husband you have possibly have been given to renowned him tremendously plenty.and because specific issues replace on your lives,we ought to consistently adapt to those alterations. in case you nonetheless love him,merely remember whilst a individual is going by using alterations it fairly is very straightforward to think of that we do unlike, yet he possibly would not like himself too plenty the two.attempt to stay supportive and stand by making use of him. a guy appears like he's somewhat a lesser individual if he's the single that would not get it up and that's a brilliant component of the project.drugs may additionally reason that to take place. i might recommend that diverse it fairly is via fact of loss of sleep.Sleep is taken under consideration necessary in the way that a individual feels ,tremendously one that is bi-polar. It possibly would not harm, if he became into keen, which you 2 see a therapist jointly so he can understand which you help him and somewhat do love him. maximum of all wait and notice with one yet another and shop the strains of communique open. I desire you 2 persevered years of happiness and the terrific of success!

Remind him that this is why men and women get together. It makes for a good compromise. The work gets done, with money coming in. And the kids are taken care of.

HI THE PAINT,,honey,,if your hubby had to work,and come home and take care of the kids,he would b paying you a salrey,just so he didnt have to take care of the kids,why isnt he doing half the work with the kids? he wants every thing fifty fifty,,,i would hav to set him down and try to make him relize that wen u get off work,you go home n work,,,GOOD LUCK TO U BOTH,PEACE

He really needs to appreciate you more, that's a lot of kids you deal with. You are working a lot harder than him for less money. I'd tell him straight he's a selfish git and that if he wants you to work longer hrs he has to do his bit with the kids.

next time he brings it up say youre the woman and you have to be there to raise the kids as well and remind him he has a better job and he is the man and he could help you out.

He sounds like a bit of a D-Bag.