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How long after divorce can you get back on your feet again?

My husband cheated and lied, and now is lying to everyone to not look like the person he actually is, sad. I'm actually over him at this point but truly disappointed in my life and how little I can proved for my child at this point. My ex has had me in court for the last year and I'm broke. I also can't find a job anywhere (and I have 15years work experience 8 in teaching (with masters) and 7 in business. It's so bad (due to husband not paying anything...please don't advise on this) that my young child and i have had to move in with my mother. Unfortunately my mother also has issues which is causing me even more stress. I'm a broke, well educated single mom who can't find a job anywhere! How do you move on with your life when you're stuck back in your mother's home? I'm willing to work in any job at this point (within reason) and can't find a damn thing!!

Update:

I'm sorry Queen Agnostic but you clearly have no idea of how the court system works in custody battle cases, nor would I ever deprive my son of his father, regardless of how he's treated me.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I would try to be as positive about this situation as possible. As annoying as your mother is, I know mine is as well, enjoy the time you spend together. Soon enough you will be moving on. I would try to enjoy the extra time you have with your child. Be thankful for the extra time you have right now. If I had the time, I would go to the park, go for a walk, be there for my mother, donate my time to helping others, and just enjoy the simple pleasures of life.

    This might not be exactly what your looking for, but I don't think you'll feel as bad if you try using some of these things...and God doesn't hurt.

  • 1 decade ago

    The first thing you should do is make peace with yourself. You are not to blame for your husbands cheating. Thank God honey you have a roof over your head, even if it is uncomfortable for now, you are safe, as well as your child. Many times situations like this that hurt so bad make us stronger and wiser for the future.

    Try to take out some time for yourself and your child. Enjoy each others company. Try, even if it is hard, to feel happy where you are now. We have power in the NOW, the present time. The past is gone, and the future is not here yet, visualize what you want and try to begin to feel as if you have it now. As for how long will it take you to get back on your feet ? This will depend on many factors. Be positive, go online and look for job openings that you may qualify for. You can even offer tutoring to students. Our thoughts are things, what you believe to be true for you is and will become your reality. Take one day at a time. Place your faith in God, and remember that things will get better.

    Source(s): My own experience
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you move.... you move to a place where you can utilize your skills and education... you put your resume online and you apply all over the world if need be. If your ex gives you grief about moving with your child, go to court... there isnt a judge that is going to stop you from bettering your life for you and your kid. Think out of the box... not in the box..... there are tons of jobs overseas for teachers..... china is dying for people to teach english, Japan, phillipines, Dubai...... and I am sure there are some states looking for people like you as well. Screw living so close to home and safe.... think of this as a new beginning and get on with life..... your not really living... so start!

    I moved from home in 1993 and I have lived all over Canada and will be going overseas eventually... life is too short to just stay home forever... the world is massive filled with opportunity.

    good luck

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Haha...Your missing 1 Big..and simple thing... God

    You need god in your life you replace all of those things broken..

    The new husband will come

    that job will come

    those bills will be paid

    and that child will be fed.

    Pray, Our god is Good.

    I pray at night every night.

    Source(s): I'm a christian
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  • You join a temp agency and let them contract you out..better than nothing. And sometimes, if the company likes you when your contract expires, they will hire you directly as one of their permanent employees...good luck.

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