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How do you get people (particularly family) to stop bugging you about religion?

I know most christians think its their job to preach to you, but really it just makes me uncomfortable. I can ignore the strangers, but how do I get my family to leave me alone about it? I respect their beliefs and I don't preach to them about why I don't believe, but what can I do to get them to quit talking about god all the time?

To be clear, only a few of them know that I'm agnostic, and it's not that they're trying to convert me, (They think I'll 'come around' in time) it's just that they're always talking about their beliefs and god and church, and it just makes me really uncomfortable. Quite frankly I'm just sick of dealing with it.

Is there a nice way to ask them to quit? I don't want to be rude or disrespectful, but I'm tired of hearing about this deity that I don't believe in.

Does anyone else have this problem? How do you deal with it?

Update:

First of all, I didn't insult christians. You have the right to believe what you want to believe (as do I!) And I respect that. So don't take your anger and hatred of atheists out on me.

Second of all, the first two answers proved my point. Instead of trying to help me or answer the question, you preach to me. Which is what I specifically said I was tired of. So thanks for being the stereotypical christian who has no respect for others opinions.

Update 2:

I'm not an atheist, I'm agnostic. Yes I know the difference. I say agnostic because, overall, I believe the whole thing is unknowable. But I also don't believe a god exists. Maybe I'm borderline between the two, but I don't really identify with the atheist agenda or label. That's why I go with agnostic. FYI

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  • L
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    Tell them that the world is full of people of differing beliefs and you would appreciate it if they didn't share their beliefs with you.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you don't believe in a "deity" then you're an atheist, not an agnostic, FYI. As for your family, Christianity is not just a religion, its a lifestyle. If they are truly followers of Jesus, then they can't help but talk about God, since He envelopes their lives. Your family is Christian (or mostly), as such the main theme going around the house is going to be about God. That's the way it is with my family. Regardless of what the other members of the household believe (I assume we're all Christians, but you never know), the topic of God/Jesus/Church comes up throughout the day, simply because its a part of our lives, and we can't separate the two, especially with family, where it is supposed to be a safe haven to spill out about what personal things are happening in each other's lives, such as God. I understand your uncomfortableness, but I'm not sure there's anything that could possibly be done about it. You are part of their family, and even though they may not be trying to convert you, they still naturally want to share with you and with each other what God is doing in their lives and around them.

  • Elsie
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Maybe they do that because they think it's better than harping on you. I think you would just have to be frank and tell them that although you don't share them, you respect their beliefs, but when they talk about them so much it makes you uncomfortable and isn't helpful.

    My son and I have different religious opinions, but we still like to talk about religion, so we have a pact to tell the other to change the subject when we've had enough.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Don't know if this helps you but here goes.

    As a woman, if you discovered a really nice shop that stocked fabulous clothing, all the latest fashions and sold it at really cheap prices, wouldn't you want to tell your immediate family and close friends, so they could go there and buy there too? Of course you would and you'd be doing them a favour and helping the shop too by sending your friends to it.

    So it is with Christians, especially those who have found God in our later years. We just want you to share our good fortune with you too. It's such a help in our lives and we want you to have the same good things too.

    I don't think Christians mean to bore you or upset you, I certainly don't. If I witness to someone it is because I want to share my good fortune with someone, but if they aren't interested I'd be wasting my time trying to force it on them. I would move on to find someone who is interested.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    The best way of getting people to stop talking about religious, is by you talking about something that makes them uncomfortable. Tell them that you are thinking about becoming gay. Continue to add to the talk whenever they do. Hopefully this will get them to stop talking about their religion around you.

  • 1 decade ago

    You do not know that.

    MOST of us leave you alone.

    Most of us do not talk about God ALL the time.

    I think you are atheist. You say you do not believe in deities. That is what "atheist" means.

    Is there a nice way to ask some atheists to stop insulting me and calling me a moron because I am Christian?

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Tell them 'my relationship with God is personal, it's not definable and it's not up for discussion, Now, lets talk about your sex life, is it good for you.....etc' They'll soon back off.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    get them to sit down with you 1 by 1 and tell them bythemselves they should react much nicer!:)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Remind them of your constitutional rights.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    your family loves you the reason there preaching is not just duty.. they want you to be saved and not go to hell. you dont even have to confess to your church or any thing just confess to god and he will save you from condemnation

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