How can I remember to call a friend getting a sex change a new pronoun?

it is difficult honey....and i'm so glad you understand how important it is to your friend to hear himself called by the proper pronoun. to most of us....it's a very big deal. i know, in my case....too much "he" sometimes drove me to despair early in my transition. it's so devalidating. sometimes it hurt so bad i cried over it. so, your sensitivity is very much appreciated.

what can you do? i think you've received some good advice already. doing it in your head i think is the best you can do....and when you goof up in there, correct yourself. it was people like you, my old friends, who had the most trouble in my case....they had to unlearn he before they could learn she.....that's always more difficult. the problem with some of them was, unlike you, they didn't understand the significance of it....it seemed to some like it was just no big deal, just a tiny mistake and they couldn't understand why it upset me so.....you're beyond that so i think with just some practice you'll do just fine.

again, God bless you and your sensitivity....your friend is a lucky guy to have a friend who cares like you do.

much love and hope. pj

If you have a picture of this friend somewhere, it can help to look that the picture and practice saying the correct pronoun out loud. Not just the pronoun, but use it in sentences. "HE is going to the store to get HIS favorite soda" "HIS mom is talking to HIM on the phone" and so forth. The more you use the pronouns, the quicker the right ones will stick.

My boyfriend is having that little trouble with one of our friends beginning transition. All you can do is keep on talking about him in third person (him, he, his) when he isn't about and hope you can get all the she-ing out of your system without him to witness it.

I'm a transman, and I know that it takes some folks time and others never get it (and some don't even make an effort) but so long as you can just keep on working at it and don't make a fuss or a scene when you get it wrong (that ticks me off more than the actual mis pronoun to be honest, the dragging attention to it) then your pal will probably be ecstatic over your efforts.

ok we expect our friend s to ocassionally slip , its no big deal if for the most part your using the right pronouns

i don't know why this bothers some people, you just switch the pronoun and stick to it. It's real easy and saves the person from feeling awkward and like you have rejected their identity. May not seem like a big deal to you but everytime you call a trans person the wrong pronoun it shows that you don't truly see them as their real gender and that you are only humouring them.

Just do it.... Not just out loud, but in your head too. You'll get used to it.

You are bound to slip once in a while. Just keep making an effort to call him a him, he, his, etc.

Thanks for being supportive to him.

I see pig jiz and his phantom army arrived with the standard thumbs down.