Dealing with husband's depression and pregnant?

I'm so sorry this is happening, sweetie.

As you know, your husband is ill. As will any illness he needs treatment. Your number one job at this point is to take care of yourself and your children, not to be co-dependent with him regarding his illness.

If his behavior is out of control and he refuses to seek medical care, you need to move out.

All the best.

He can't give you a reason why because he doesn't have a reason why.Just look at it as crazy pregnancy hormones or PMS hormones...you have minimal control over it and it's frustrating as hell.

Giving him that ultimatum is NOT cool.That is the birth of his child..there is no going back.But...I do agree that he needs to come to the realization that he has a issue and it is bringing down his life around him.If he doesn't want to get on medication, he needs to find some way to balance things out either through natural remedies or counseling because it's not healthy for the family.

Write him a letter if he isn't "getting it" with a talk.

Good luck.

He's bi polar and not on his meds and it sounds like he's going through a manic phase. When manic, a lot of people cheat and run around and think only about themselves and act recklessly and ignore their families... You can't change anything.. Except how you deal with him. I think you should tell him he needs to start managing his illness or you will leave because it is not a healthy environment for your children. Yes they are his kids too, but he is mentally ill and needs help or he can't be a good parent or partner. It must be very hard to go through this and being 8 mos pregnant too. I'm sorry. :-(

Being bipolar is a extreme situation and he could actual confer with somebody and probably communicate medicine. If he's so unhappy together with his existence and your marriage then he needs to step up and be prepared to paintings issues out with you, incredibly with a toddler and yet another one on the way. you're able to do 2 issues in this occasion. One, you may shop chipping away at him until you destroy by using. which ability attempt to softly push him into conversing extra with you approximately what he's feeling and what's incorrect, and gently push him in direction of worrying extra on your daughter and additionally to conversing to somebody. If this would not paintings, and you are the very end of what you may take care of, then an ultimatum feels like the only different element to do. If he has an identical opinion to expert help, this might properly be a stable step. you may say which you somewhat prefer him to bypass see somebody and attain out for help, or you do not know in case you may stick around and watch him destroy his existence, his dating with the two you and his daughter and elevate your infants in an atmosphere like this. maybe this could push him to do something and open his eyes. And for my section, i could permit him be there for the start of his 2nd toddler. It in basic terms takes place as quickly as, and he merits to be there, no rely what your issues are. you nevertheless love one yet another and it is the properly suited/marvelous element to do.

I think it may just be the wake up call he needs..

Just be prepared if it backfires and he wants out..