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My friend is dating this guy who works as a busboy in a cafe. But he talk all big about how he went to harvard and he brags about how smart he is all the time. Truth is I think he's bulls-tting but I don't know how to go about proving it.... Does anyone know how I could find a list of students that went to harvard in the 80's? I want to be able to search for his name and see if he's lying.

I know this is a weird question, I'm just really worried that this guy is filling my friend's head with a lot of stories and lies and she has young kids and I'm concerned about his motivations...

My 8 month old is violent! Lol, I'm kidding, sort of... I need some advice on teaching him to be more gentle. He's so high spirited and active. He's already pulling himself up on things and cruising and he's into everything, he wants to touch and explore everything he can.

However he can get too agressive. Like he pinches. I know he's mastering that pincher grasp but how do I get him to stop mastering it on the backs of my arms when I'm holding him or my breast when he's nursing. He also likes to grab faces and claw and pull at lips, noses, eyes, ears... And he smacks a lot too.

I know at 8 months, he doesn't really understand much. I try to tell him to be gentle and I stroke the back of his hand and arm and say gentle, hoping he connects the word with soft touching eventually. But for now, if I try putting him down he cries and doesn't understand why mommy doesn't want him. Then as soon as I pick him up again, pinching pulling hitting begins again. Lol.

Is this a short lived phase because I've had 3 other kids and I don't remember being abused quite this much in the past? :-)

how did you teach your baby to be more gentle?

Every time we go anywhere, he screams. He's 7 weeks old and he has done this from the beginning. He screams so much and so hard that he is all red and soaked with sweat just riding home from the grocery store 10 minutes away. He has even sounded hoarse after car rides from screaming so hard.

I have tried music. Music soothes him nearly any other time, but not I the car. I've tried takin him out when he's really tired hoping he'll fall asleep, but no, he will literally fight sleep and scream his head off and then pass out when we get home. I tried putting him in only when well rested, that is just more energy for screaming. I try sitting by him while my husband drives and I try everything to calm him and he just screams at me. I downloaded every baby app on my iPhone I could find to entertain him and I tried every one and nothing worked longer than about 30 seconds then he started screaming his head off again.

He's only 7 weeks so I can't try toys that he could hold, but I tried the ones that make music and dangle from

the handle on the seat. He hated that. He loves pull down toys in the house so I tried hanging one from the hook by the window. Nothing. I tried stripping him down in case he was hot, covering him in case he's cold, windows up, windows down, makes no difference.

He won't take a pacifier at all he screams harder if you try. If you take him out, he will calm down right away but as soon as you put him back it starts all over. He will wake up from a dead sleep to scream in the car.

I've tried so many things and nothing works and everyone I ask just says, "my kids LOVED the car" or they suggest that he just needs to "get used to it". Well it's been 7 weeks of pure torture in the car and he's not getting any more used to it!

Any ideas beyond what I've tried would be greatly appreciated. I can't even drive at all, I have to have my husband do all the driving because I'm afraid I will cause an accident from the anxiety and distraction of hearing him scream while driving.

I nursed my last kid but I never had this issue with him.

My 6 week old is nursing great, gaining weight, all's good there. But he is a very active nurser. What I mean is that the whole time he nurses he will wiggle, pull on my shirt, look around, make noises, punches and claws at my breast... And at night when we are laying down, he likes to kick me in my stomach so much that I have to put a small pillow between his legs and my stomach because it hurts when he kicks me cuz I had a c section. He does finally stop when he drifts off to sleep.

Any tips on getting him to calm down a little or are some babies just real active while nursing? If he was older, I would say "no kicking" or "no hitting" or whatever and put him down to teach him he doesn't get to nurse unless he's nice. But he's only 6 weeks old. I don't think he'd understand.

I had vaginal deliveries with my previous kids but this time I needed a last minute c section after him getting stuck in my pelvis and his heart rate dropping dangerously low. The whole c section thing is very foreign to me and the info I have found doesn't seem to answer my questions...

1. My baby is 2 weeks old today. Is it normal for the bleeding to stop already? With my other deliveries, I remember having bleeding that lasted for a good 4-6 weeks that went from red to brown to that weird yellowish before ending. I was bleeding red then suddenly nothing for the last 24 hours or so. Is this normal?

2. If my bleeding has stopped, then do I really need to wait 6 weeks to have sex? I always wanted to wait before cuz I was so sore down there, but this time no soreness except a little around my incision site. So do I have to wait?

3. I had the glue to close my incision and I was wondering how long until it's ok to take a bath. Anyone have the dermabond to close- how long did you wait to take a bath?

4. My belly is shrinking pretty well, but I've got this skin that folds over the incision area. How long till that goes away?

5. They said no driving for 4 weeks! Did anyone else get told that and did you really wait that long? Is there some kind of rational explanation for not driving for so long?

Sorry for all the questions, I just have no experience with this type of delivery and I don't know and the doctors just didn't explain things well.

I'm a week overdue with my 4th child, 3rd pregnancy (had twins first time). I am MISERABLE!! I'm in so much pain it feels like my pelvis is cracking in half. I'm 2 cm, but nothing is happening. I have had several times of strong regular painful contractions but then they just ease back up. I don't know why this baby won't just come out!!

My fluid check showed that his fluid levels are low, very close to worrysome levels so I have an induction scheduled Monday, when I will be 10 days overdue.

I know it's only another few days now, but I'm so depressed about this whole thing, I feel like I can't stand waiting any more. In the last week, I have literally tried EVERY stupid old wives tale I can find online that is supposed to bring on labor and nothing works! I wanted so bad to have an unmedicated birth, without a bunch of medical interventions. I'm so afraid I'll end up with a c section. I'm so worried about it, I can't sleep, I keep breaking down crying.

Does anyone have any good stories that will make me feel a little better? I just really need to hear some posotive comments right now to help me ease my worrying a little.

Thanks

My induction is scheduled for Monday and I'm really hoping to go into labor on my own before then. I have had sensitivity to pain meds in the past and was hoping for a natural birth this time and I know it's a more painful process to be induced. Plus I am worried about it leading to me needing a c section and I want to avoid that desperately.

But my fluid levels are teetering on the very low end of normal and I have a history of big babies. I'm very small and my last was 9.5 pounds and I tore severely with him. So delaying the induction is not really an option. I will be 10 days late at that point, by the way.

I've tried just about everything I could find as far as natural ways to induce labor. Sex is uncomfortable and hurts and does nothing, I've eaten everything from spicy foods to pineapple to black licorice, I've walked and walked...

Any advice on encouraging labor to start? Any advice on being induced and still going natural? I'm starting to feel very stressed about this whole thing.

Thanks.

I'm 39 weeks. For several days I've had off and on contractions, lots of back pain involved. Tons of low pressure too. On Monday I was at the doctor and I was 1 cm dialated.

Yesterday, I woke up and was having contractions every 10 minutes. Then about every 7. Then every 5. This was very regular and increasingly uncomfortable with lots of back pain again. After several hours, I went to the hospital. They hooked me up to the monitors and I kept having contractions there. Then the doctor comes in and checks me and I'm STILL only 1 cm!!! So I get sent home.

The doctor started to say to come back when my contractions get regular for at least 90 minutes but then realized-duh-they have been for hours! So shecsays come back if I have lots of bleeding, water breaks, baby isn't moving, or pain gets severe.

Been home about 12 hours and contractions are still regular and still have lots of back pain and this really is starting to get very frustrating! I've been spotting a little, but I'm guessing that might be from them checking my cervix, the doc was a little rough and I had a bunch of cramps after.

How the heck to I get my cervix to dialate? How can I have regular contractions and all this pain and nothing be happening?! How long can this possibly go on?! Anyone else go thru this?

Btw, any suggestions to encourage dialation welcome, LOL, except sex. I would love to, but we can't right now, my DH got a heat rash from working outside and he's too sore. :-(

First of all, I'm 38 1/2 weeks pregnant. Yesterday around 5 pm, contractions were a steady 10 mins apart. They got around 7-8 by 8 pm or so, and by 10 pm they were every 5 minutes, accompanied by very strong back pain. I was having lots of pushing down pressure during them as well. I was sure I was going to be heading to the hospital. But then I tried laying down for a bit to try to relax and the intensity and pain eased up some and never got any worse. So I went to sleep.

Now it's nearly 10 am and I'm still having contractions about every 5-10 minutes and lots of back pain and I can tell his head is lower in my pelvis than it was yesterday, I can feel the pressure has lowered. But my contractions aren't getting more and more painful. I have noticed that I'm having a wetter than normal discharge that is watery, but I don't think I'm leaking because it's not that much. Lots of pain in my upper inner thighs too. I know nobody can predict when a baby will come, but do you think, based on these symptoms, that it will be soon, like in the next few days at least? I'm sooooo miserable and i'm so anxious to be done with pregnancy!!

Other question: last night when I was having so much pain, I also got very dizzy and sick to my stomach and I went from feeling like "oh, I hope this is it!" to having a near panic attack at the idea of being in labor. I had a bad experience with my last child and I have had a lot if anxiety about this birth because of it, but up until I thought it was time, I felt confident I was ready to handle it. But then last night I was crying and scared. Any suggestions on trying to relax more and stop worrying?

Thanks. :-)

I'm 35 weeks pregnant. My doctor's office is actually in the hospital where I will deliver. When I went to my appt on Friday, there are signs posted all over the hospital at all the doors, elevators, all around. The signs say: "due to the h1n1 virus (swine flu) no visitors under the age of 14 will be allowed in the hospital."

I have 2 girls that are 12, a son who is 9, and a stepson who is 6. All of them were going to come and meet their new little brother at the hospital after he comes. I promised my kids that besides me and dad that they would be the first to see/meet/hold the baby before any other family members.

There hasn't been any cases that are all that close to my hospital/area. And I thought all the hype and freaking out was settling down. I guess not.

What would you do in this situation? I think the kids will be very hurt if everyone else in the family gets to visit the baby except them because they are under 14. Should I tell the rest of the family that we don't want visitors till after the kids get to meet their brother? I promised them they would be first because he is "our baby". Do you think the hospital will probably lift the ban by then? I do still have about 5 weeks. Should I try to go to a different hospital?

33 weeks pregnant. My doctor's office is frustrating me. I have seen a different doctor every time I've gone the last 4 times even though I ask for appts with my doctor. The last visit literally lasted about 3 minutes, this one maybe 5. It just seems like they don't listen and want to shove you out the door as fast as they can.

Like today: I have gained 10 pounds in the last 2 weeks and I think that's really odd since if anything, I have been eating less, not more. Also, I've been having a LOT of swelling in the last week. She basically said I'm fine. Said my blood pressure was normal, no protein in urine, so don't worry. She said the weight is from retaining water. She didn't give me any warning signs to watch out for in case it gets worse, she didn't suggest anything to reduce swelling except put feet up. She didn't ask me ONE SINGLE question about anything. How would she have any idea if I'm having any problems if she doesn't ask me any questions?!

I'm 33 weeks and none of the doctors have yet to tell me to count baby movements ever. Nor have any asked if I've been counting. I have, but doesn't it seem like something a doctor should mention?

I just feel like I'm not getting adequate care and that nothing I'm concerned about is ever addressed well enough that I feel ok afterwards. I told her I thought that my belly felt harder than normal the last few days, like there is less fluid in there. She said it was probably contractions but it isn't, I know the difference between a contraction and a difference in the feel of my belly.

Now I don't know: should I worry about the swelling and the weight gain? Should I worry it seems like there is less fluid or is that normal as the baby gets bigger? Should I try to look for a different place this far into my pregnancy or are all doctors like this? I just feel concerned about my baby and I feel dismissed and I feel like I can't trust them there.

Advice please?!

I'm 29 weeks now and I probably won't be able to get one for at least another 3 weeks or so. My husband got this really great side job to make some extra money and he said afterwards, he would really like to go and get a 3D done, he wants to see the baby as much as I do. :)

A girl I know got one done really far along and her baby's face was all squished up and the pictures didn't come out well because they said there wasn't much room for the baby because she was so close to birth. I don't want to spend the money if it's going to turn out like her pictures did.

So I'm wondering, what week did you get yours done? Is it too late around 32-33 weeks to get good pictures of the baby?

Due to financial issues (damn economy) we are having to move and we have found a place and are getting ready to move in. It is the other half of a 2 family that my DH's sister lives in.

We get along great. Our kids get along great. But I have a couple issues and need some advice how to handle before they become problems, they all pretty much involve personal boundaries...

1. I'm due with a new baby in June. Her daughter has been going around to all the family (she's 9) and telling them all how she's going to hold the baby and play with the baby and help with the baby as much as she wants and how excited she is. Now, she's a great kid, but I'm a little concerned about her being (to put it bluntly) up my a$$ 24-7 while I'm trying to take care of my baby. I know she's just excited about her new cousin, but I don't want her in my house all day every day.

2. Every time we are over getting the place ready to move in, her kids just walk in the door and come in and ask what we are doing. We don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but we want people to learn to knock and make sure that we want visitors before they come barging in. I can't really lock the door if my kids are playing outside.

3. We were over yesterday and my stepson hit my son with a stick. It was the second time that day he purposely hit someone and he is old enough to know better!!! He hit my daughter in the van on the way over. He was in a mood and just taking it out on everyone else. My DH told him if he did it again he would be in time out while the other kids played in the yard. So when he hit my son, he was placed in time out. Then my DH's sister comes along and says that DH was being mean to him and she wanted to single him out and take him with her to the store and buy him some candy. While the kid is sitting in time out! And I realized that we are going to have to deal with her putting in her 2 cents when we discipline our kids too.

How do we nicely talk to the family about all of this without hurting anyone's feelings? They have lived in this place for a few years and we are new there, so I'm sure they feel like it is "their" turf. But we are paying just as much as they are to live there and they don't "own" any part of the place any more than we do.

I have already begun talking to my kids about boundaries and telling them they need to treat her house as they would anyone else's house and that they do not have permission to just walk into her place. They must be invited and get an ok from me first too. But yesterday, after I told them they could not go inside and they had to stay in the yard where I could see them, they still ended up in her house where shecwas giving them drinks and snacks right before we were going to feed them dinner.

Advice please. I don't want to have a bad relationship with my neighbors/in laws, but I want my boundaries respected!

I wanted to know if my baby was a boy or girl because to be honest, I don't like gender neutral stuff much at all and I wanted to be prepared for my baby because the last thing I want to do is go shopping two days after he's born because we don't have any boy clothes. So I found out I'm having a boy. But before I found out, everyone on both sides of the family went on and on guessing and insisting what they thought it was going to be and it really got on my nerves. Then when I told them, one family member even acted like she was pissed off at me as if I can control whether the fetus inside me has a penis or not!

So now it's all about the name. We started thinking about names and every time I liked a name and said something, people would start going on and on about it, it's too weird, it's too plain, why don't you use this name instead... I'm getting sick of it again and I think people need to just shut up and let us decide what we want to name our baby.

So my plan is that I'm not going to tell a single one of them what name we decide on until it is on the birth certificate. Until then I'm just going to say we can't decide. I don't think many of them would dare say anything negative about it after the fact and this way I can shut them up for the rest of my pregnancy.

Is anyone else doing the same thing? Keeping details about your baby to yourselves to avoid a bunch of meddling? Anyone else tired of people trying to force on you what they want for your baby, like stupid names?

I'm going through this weird feeling right now. I have gotten all this stuff for the baby- swing, car seat, stroller, bed... I see cute outfits and baby stuff and I go "awwwwwwww" and get excited about getting things for the baby. I feel him move and I talk to him and I already feel attached to him and if anything happened to him...omg I think I'd die, I don't even want to think about it. I come on here every day and read about pregnancy and talk about pregnancy and answer questions and ask questions... It's like my life revolves around being pregnant.

But it is like my brain just can't wrap itself around the idea I'm having a baby. I don't remember feeling this way when I was so young and having my twin girls. And I don't remember feeling this way a few years later having my son. But my "baby" is 9 years old now. Is it just because it's been so long since I had a baby? Is it normal? Will it feel more real when I get closer to my due date? I'm 28 weeks in a couple days.

I see babies in stores and I think how cute they are, but I just can't picture myself holding one and feeding one and taking care of one and putting those tiny little outfits on him...

Other people feel this way?

All last night and today I've had this strange vibrating feeling, it feels like it's right behind my pubic bone or in my pubic bone. It comes on and goes away after a few seconds but then comes back a couple minutes later. It's like a cell phone vibration. Very odd.

I'm 27 weeks and my baby moves very strongly and up higher than this so I don't think it's the baby moving, but I just don't know.

Has anyone else experienced this or know what the heck it is?

My 10 month old min pin is weird about men. Some details:

We got him at 8 weeks old. We have 4 kids, 2 boys and 2 girls. He's fine with my husband, the boys, any friends the boys bring over to play... He loves all women with no problem, family and visitors.

But he doesn't like grown/older men. Even my brother in law who is 15 and 6 foot tall is fine, he likes him. But he gets all freaked out and acts strange when older men come over. My dad, my father in law, my brother in law in his 40's...

He shakes like he's afraid and he runs in and out of the room and barks at them over and over the whole time they are here. We've tried ignoring him, it makes no difference. We tried having my dad give him treats but he won't touch anything if it was in a man's hand no matter how much he loves it until the item is at least a few feet away. The only thing I can do is gate the dog up in another room until our guests leave.

When he was a much smaller puppy, my dad held him and he was fine but now that he's older, he just is so weird about men. I don't understand why. He's never had a bad experience where he was hurt or anything.

What can I do to break this bad habit and get him to chill out when we have man visitors at our house?

I've noticed lately that I have stains in my bra from minor leaking, which I know is normal in pregnancy.

I breastfed my last child so I know how milk and breastfeeding works and I know that most women who have had pierced nipples can nurse with no problem.

But as I was getting out of a warm shower last night, I looked down and noticed some little beads of milk coming out of my nipples and there was a bead of milk coming directly out the side of my nipple out my piercing hole.

I know it's milk and not puss, it was totally healed a long time ago, I have no signs of infection. I haven't had a ring in there for a good 7-8 months.

But I was just wondering, did the piercing create a new hole for the milk to come out of? I thought that each little hole the milk comes out of was attached to a milk duct? Has anyone else experienced this?

I know it sounds a little goofy, I'm not worried, just really curious if this has happened to others?

I know this might sound dumb, but I have no clue what to name my baby boy, due in June. We go through baby name books, at least 5 or 6 big ones and a few smaller ones too. I've looked through traditional names, unique names, names that come from the bible or famous literature or whatever. But nothing seems right for my baby.

I've found names I sort of like, but nothing that stands out and says to me, this is the name for my baby. There is always something that just doesn't feel right about it.

Has anyone else felt that way? How did you come up with the name for your baby or at least a list of names that you were excited about?

I have 3 kids and I named them all myself and it seemed so easy then.

Any advice? I don't really want suggestions for names as much as tips on choosing one.

Thanks.

I'm only 24 weeks, but the pains I'm getting are like you would expect at the end of pregnancy.

I have cramps in my lower belly a lot and I'm not sure if I am having BH or not, sometimes I think yes and other times I think not.

My back has been hurting pretty badly for a few weeks also, especially low, right above my butt. The cramps have been happening about the same amount of time. My doctor said it was from stress and told me to take it easier and not bend so much and rest more.

But now for the last few days, I have been experiencing this pain that is almost unbearable. I still have the cramps and back pain. But now I feel like my crotch is so sore, like someone kicked me between the legs. It hurts terribly, even seems like it hurts up inside. Sometimes my legs feel like there is something forcing them apart, like as if I had something between my legs. And my upper inner thighs hurt like I just went horseback riding all day or ran a marathon. They just ache so much. And it hurts like h--- when I try to turn over in bed, like my legs won't move right. And I am having trouble putting on pants because it hurts to lift my leg that high.

I need my DH to help me get dressed, help me in and out of the car, help me up from the couch... I feel like an old lady that can barely move around.

Has anyone else had this?! Is this normal? Am I gonna go into labor too early and possibly lose my baby? I'm really worried. I'm gonna call my doctor first thing in the morning and see if I can get an appointment. But I am just wondering if anyone else has had this and knows what is happening.