Anyone else keeping their families in the dark?

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I wanted to know if my baby was a boy or girl because to be honest, I don't like gender neutral stuff much at all and I wanted to be prepared for my baby because the last thing I want to do is go shopping two days after he's born because we don't have any boy clothes. So I found out I'm having a boy. But before I found out, everyone on both sides of the family went on and on guessing and insisting what they thought it was going to be and it really got on my nerves. Then when I told them, one family member even acted like she was pissed off at me as if I can control whether the fetus inside me has a penis or not! 

So now it's all about the name. We started thinking about names and every time I liked a name and said something, people would start going on and on about it, it's too weird, it's too plain, why don't you use this name instead... I'm getting sick of it again and I think people need to just shut up and let us decide what we want to name our baby. 

So my plan is that I'm not going to tell a single one of them what name we decide on until it is on the birth certificate. Until then I'm just going to say we can't decide.  I don't think many of them would dare say anything negative about it after the fact and this way I can shut them up for the rest of my pregnancy. 

Is anyone else doing the same thing? Keeping details about your baby to yourselves to avoid a bunch of meddling? Anyone else tired of people trying to force on you what they want for your baby, like stupid names?

? · Accepted Answer

I think your idea is great! You can avoid any stress this way, and you and your partner can feel closer to each other knowing only you two have a secret. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. So instead of letting them get to you, they can go on all they want, and you can smirk and laugh in your head.

Independence Baby - 7/4/09 · Answer

We are doing that as well. But, for different reasons. My husband wanted to keep the sex a secret until birth and I could not wait that long. We decided that we would keep the name a secret until birth since everyone knows the sex now. Unless they come on here...LOL I think you should do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable. Why is your family acting like they are having your baby anyway??

~Mrs. D~ · Answer

I'm so with you on this one!  We were going to keep the gender of our baby a secret until she was born, but we didn't want our daughter to slip up or be tricked into telling anyone so we decided to go ahead and tell.  My husband's mother has given me the silent treatment ever since because she wanted a grandson and we are having a girl.  The name we haven't kept secret but my MIL keeps shortening it and we hate it.  

My MIL even went so far as to change what the grandkids call her.  My oldest will be 7 in May and has always called her Granny, because that's what she wanted...as soon as her daughter had a baby (ya know, a kid she actually knows IS her grandchild) she decides she wants to be called Mimi.  WTF?!

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's kind of neat to keep the name a secret and even the gender. I am telling my family once I know what I'm having but keeping it a secret to everyone else. I don't think you are wrong at all, I mean surprises are fun. Congrats on the boy!

holidaeshawty · Answer

i planned on doing the same. i was really thinking about not telling any one the sex, but it would somewhat be mean because then no one would be able to buy anything. i am definitely going to keep the name to myself, even when people ask on here what will you name your child... i have to restrain myself so no one will think of taking the name! i think my family will some what bug me but a few ppl ive told already that i plan on keeping it a secret seem to be ok with it. now i just have to get pregnant!

Paul&#39;s Next Wife · Answer

Just let them talk...it's your baby, and you're going to do what you want to do.  When I was pregnant and got a lot of unsolicited advice or suggestions, I'd just smile and nod, or laugh at them.  Keep your ideas and plans to yourself, and then when he gets here just tell everybody what his name is.  Ok, here's some unsolicited advice, get ready to smile and nod...please don't name your baby something all made up, or spell it really weirdly.  I work in an elementary school, and there's so many silly made-up names I can't keep them all straight.

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