I know my married brother has a girlfriend and this girlfriend had a baby, What do I do?

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Remind that 30% of paternity tests come out negative, so he needs to confirm if he's the father. This can be done without the mother knowing using a simply kit bought at a pharmacy, but it is not admissible as evidence in court. A court admissible test cost 5X more.

If he is the father, he needs to set up court ordered child support. Anything he's giving her is a gift and not support. She can collect it all, wait up to 18 years, than file for retroactive child support on him, which would freeze and liquidate any joint assets held by him and his wife.

The wife needs to know, Tell him that either he tells her or you will. Blood is not more important than morality and making the right character choices.

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Rxing you have a very unique situation on your hands. If you are smiling in your sister in laws face and not telling her what's going on, that makes you a indirect accomplice. Don't protect your brother for doing wrong, he shouldn't be rewarded for infidelity. He chose to cheat and be unfaithful and with those action there are consequences. now that doesn't mean that you love him any less, but that you are just a fair person. You said you don't want to be in the middle, but you already are in the middle because you are playing both sides. How can you say that you "love his wife" and hide that terrible secret from her. Put yourself in her shoes for a moment and ask yourself would you be okay with the situation. Whatever your answer is will help lead you to your decision. There are plenty of ways that you can help her to find out, without you actually saying a word.

oh my god. that is hectic! you shouldnt worry about so much the fact that you married your brothers girlfriend, that is something that can be eventually sorted out, it was years ago. BUT think of his and your wife's child- you are setting this child up for a miserable life because one day it will all come out and this child has been DECEIVED into thinking that you are his father. you have to tell your brothers son the truth. and your brother the truth. it will eat away at you all of your life- and then it will eat away at your brother's sons life. do you really want to hurt your family any more? maybe ring your parents, reconcile with them. but ask about your brother-if he is now happily married and has kids, it may not be so bad. just try to find out what his situation is now. then eventually you will have to break it to him. and tell him you have been raising his child. but make sure you point out the advantages- if u have given this child a good life, then let him know that. but still be eternally sorry. you really need to sort this out for that childs sake.

The best thing for you to do is stay out of it. As hard as it may be, getting involved will make things worse on yourself. Lets say you tell his wife, Im willing to bet she will be more upset with you for knowing and keeping it from her so long. Things can't be kept in the dark for long, she will find out eventually and it will more than likely ruin the marriage. She will probably even find out that you knew and be upset with you b/c you keep in contact with the other woman and know what the baby looks like. So really your already in the middle of it, it just hasn't blown up yet and it will.

Being a sister to a young man, it isn't any of my business - at least not to put my brother on blast. And if I were you I would leave it alone, he is the one that created the situation so he should be the one to resolve it. As a wife, yes - I would want to know BUT I would not expect to hear it from his sister whether they are close or not...

You could approach your brother tactfully and ask him about the situation. Maybe there are factors you don't know about. You could suggest to him he should be honest with his wife and should be for the sake of his marriage. But the decision must be his. Intervening directly and you will most likely end any relationship with your brother. He may be in the wrong but I think it would be very wrong to tell his wife when you are not involved.

Rick

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Leave this up to your brother and since you are developing a relationship don't ruin it by being the messenger with the bad news. His wife probably knows anyway.

Stay right out of it ... zip your lips. Glue them if you have to. It would be pointless telling your brother you were going to tell his wife, he'd either get violent or tell everyone you were lying. I don't think you should be having anything to do with his girlfriend either. Don't put yourself into the middle of a nasty situation, it's not of your making.

You crossed the line calling her, especially in the fact you live in another state and are not that close to your brother. Leave it alone!

Ugh...so tough to know what to do...

I guess I would just stay out of it. If you must say something, confront your brother, not his wife.