I tossed my 16 year old out of the house?

Wow! You've got a package! I must commend you on coming this far with him! I really don't know what to tell you. It breaks my heart to hear these horror stories! I'm sure your heart is to broken to break any more!

I can only tell you that a person should not be labeled with any disorders or they will not believe they can improve! The second thing I feel is very important is to take a personal interest in his interests! This shows that you care and it allows you to know what he's up to, so you can act if you must! You only act when it's dangerous! You can tell him gently that you don't agree with what he's up to, but no more! Never try to stop his silly desires since he won't listen to you and he can only learn from his mistakes (that aren't dangerous). Tell him that you will always love him no matter what he does and you threw him out only because you love him! You are still interested in what he does and you hope he'll keep in touch! Maybe take him out to eat one night, just the two of you! Hope this was helpful! Good luck!

Good job kicking that little f'er out. No kid is worth that much and if one of my 7, yes 7, kids were to act like that they'd get a beating an a see you later, have fun on the streets. When he comes crawling back and finally begs for forgiveness let him in, but tell him things are gonna change whether he likes it or not otherwise he can leave again. And don't blame him for smoking pot. He's 16 dont tell me you didn't when you were that age. I was like a god darn chimney when i was 16. But that's my opinion. Tough love, the only real kind.

I do have to say i commend you for being so strong sure this is hard. I was a bad teenager and I ran away a lot and stole and so on. My parents let me sit in the detention hall threatened to send me away and so on. Nothing ever worked I was very angry they moved me from cali to nevada and I lost it. I went to a psychiatrist and a therapist who which by the way say through my bull **** its their job. When i turned 18 I started getting Better I was still angry at my parents and now I am fine and am normal lol, but the best thing i can say its get Professional help. The school concealers suck honestly and they are really bad they just sit there and listen and what he needs is someone to see through his ****. He really sounds angry and instead of expressing that he is hurt he acts out and gets attention from the bad people. I did too cause I thought my parents where the enemy and they knew me better and blah blah. There is hope and I hope he gets better and over comes this. Hes a product of his child hood and he made the choice to go down the bad road nad it will b his choice to change his path.

I'm a lawyer, mother/stepmother of 4 kids in their teens and early 20s, and a therapist in training, and I've got to tell you, this cries out to me as being more than just maladjustment. I suspect that your son, like your first wife, may have a mental illness or personality disorder. It sounds like you've tried everything in your power to figure out how to help him, including counseling, but I think you should give some thought to having him evaluated by a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist.

As far as kicking him out...well, I know that others will disagree with me on this, but I just don't think it's appropriate to kick out a kid at that age. I'm not judging you, I am sure this is awful, and it must seem to you like nothing else has worked...I really understand why you did it...and maybe this is because I'm female...but I just couldn't do that, not at 16.

I really hate it when it comes to having to use "Tough Love" . Did you also contact Police over this stuff for advice? The kid is still a minor you know. The adults he has contact with are contributing to the delinquency of a minor to let him get away with this crap and also need to be charged. I know that it didn't help to have such a mom as he got stuck with but those are the breaks. Child Protective Services should also need to be involved. I know that Counseling may not be working out but I think you need to keep trying. Another councilor maybe? Different type?

Good luck.

If your sons sociopathic, or has anti-social personality disorder as they're calling it now he has little chance of getting better. If its a past environmental problem as you suppose I would listen to the police officer let your son out of the house to figure out things for himself, give him some space. You also need a break for him. You tried everything you can leave him alone for a month or two and check up on him every so often to see how he's doing. He might come home a better man, once he apologizes.

That's a tough situation. It seems that he thinks he can get away with anything because there have actually never been serious consequences. I think juvenile hall would do him some good. He shouldn't be allowed to get away with theft and organize drug parties. He's going to become an adult in less than two years and he needs to get straightened out before he gets in serious trouble. Best of luck.

sounds like a drug problem. get him help! u cant just kick him out! that's illegal!

your son needs rehab and counseling! he's not a stray dog, he a kid in need of help. call your local family counseling center or anything that u have .look in beginning of phone book, pink/blue section. they have all the places and numbers for help in your community. good luck!

I work with at-risk youth for a living. I would put him in rehab. There's no doubt in my mind he's a drug addict.

Wow. You have a very messed up kid. Throwing him out was wrong though. Talk to him. Ask him why he is acting the way he is. Don't throw him out, he's your kid after all.