Has anyone here been in a relationship that?

Yes, I've known several cases where the husband comes forward and annouces to his loving wife that he is a cross-dresser.

In the first case, the husband was all in tears, and explained that he couldn't understand his need to cross-dress. He declared that he was still a heterosexual and that he loved her. She loved him too and supported his need to cross-dress. He just got deeper and deeper into his gender identification, and through it all his wife supported him. He finally adopted a female alter-ego, and decided he was really a transsexual. He divorced his wife and decided to live as a female.

In the second case, the husband told his wife that he needed to be honest with her and she just needed to accept him as he was. He just started cross-dressing at will, and he didn't seem to care what his wife thought. She complained that she felt like her husband's second love. He insisted on presenting himself as a female in their intimate times, and that finally killed the marriage. His wife no longer saw her needs being met in the relationship.

In another case, the husband told his wife that he was a heterosexual, and he loved her, but he also felt a need to cross-dress. They both did some research and determined that his brain was just hard-wired to respond to cross-dressing by releasing dopamine and other neurotransmitters when he feminized himself. It gave him sensations of well-being and pleasure, and he couldn't stop his brain from releasing these neurotransmitters. They decided that the wife would set the terms and conditions for his cross-dressing and he would try his best to live within her tolerances. They both had to make a few compromises, but they were able to lovingly respond to each other's needs. Their marriage survived.

O-o

yikes