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ariesalways411
ariesalways411 asked in Family & RelationshipsOther - Family & Relationships · 1 decade ago

How to reconcile friendship?

How to reconcile friendship?

Okay. We (couple in our late 20's) along with another couple (mid 20's) We both have two kids and last year became close during the Fall. We would hang out and do dinners together. My fiance and the other husband were kinda step brothers and spent some years growing up so they were close. We stored his truck for Winter and it was a huge hassle getting him to move it out of our way after Winter (My opinion on when things went wrong) But into this year we didnt hang out so often cuz of the snow and schedules. And shortly after he got his truck out, It seems like we arent really friends any longer. (He didnt answer calls) She deleted me from Myspace. (Its just myspace so thats okay) But I dont know what happened. And months ago when everything was still okay (in my eyes) , And we would stop by they would joke about how come WE dont call,ect...And I mentioned the phone works both ways. I didnt see why we had to call and what not. Anyways...I just dont see the need for it and we were good friends. So now Im wnating to know how to I squish this and reconcile the friendship. If they are game also of course. I was thinking of emailing her to ask her if she wanted to head to the park one day...or see if they want to get together for a cookout.

Any suggestions/adivse on how to go about it?

Update:

We are the ones that needed space,lol.

But nothing was verbally said - I guess they just took it as we didnt like them anymore.

Update 2:

"the big hassel" of getting him to get his truck...It was my Bday weekend. And I was having my sister/dad over.

And I invited them also, but they didnt come. The husband said he wasnt invited....This is when he was getting the truck....I invited him right there, I assumed my fiance invited them. But after we talked every time we called they never answered to even invite them. But since it was just my family I didnt see it a big deal, I wasnt planning anything formal until last min. And I could plan anything until I knew his truck would be out of the way...Which he removed the day before my bday.

Update 3:

I tried just to give a quick over view...Yea there so much more to it, lol.

Nothing too important. We started "fadeing" ourselves from them. I wasnt compforatable with all the traffic they had in and out of their house.

Update 4:

I tried just to give a quick over view...Yea there so much more to it, lol.

Nothing too important. We started "fadeing" ourselves from them. I wasnt compforatable with all the traffic they had in and out of their house.

Update 5:

Also...My fiance would help him with his job until he found a worker....This was last year...He helped for months and kept reminding him he needed to find help. And then so finally my fiance gave him notice and was like Im not helping anymore. (the work and pay were horrible he did it alot just to be nice)

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  • Zestfive
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Based on your report of the friendship, it seems they might have been starting the "fade out" before you even noticed. They were being polite until he got his truck but after the hassle, they had no reason to even respond to any calls and etc.

    I think you should communicate honestly with them and find out if they intend for the friendship to go through this "fade out". If they do, you'll have to decide if you want to try and reconcile the friendship, frankly...you seem a little ambivalent about this too(when you say "if they are game also of course"). If you want to go forward, let them know that you miss their friendship and perhaps you both need to talk about what your expectations of your friendship is, how often you call, who calls and if things change based on the weather or season. During that big hassle was there anything said that apologies might be in order?

    Good Luck!

  • leah37
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    People just change and they really need space also. Just talk to them sometimes not too much though. Ask them if that is ok if they would like that. It just depends some people have a ton more to deal with and they need to get stuff done.

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