If you show interest in a man does he think you want to sleep with him, NOW?

You have waited that long to date again just skip the pervert and wait for a nicer man to come around...

How vulgar ! Not all men act this way believe me.

Actually, most women are flattered by a man's interest if it is shown in an appropriate manner (and if both people are single). But women can easily be scared off if it is too much; most of us have had a stalker or some overly aggressive attention at some point and that makes us wary if too much interest is shown too soon. We can actually be in physical danger if some overly aggressive guy gets the wrong idea, and then get blamed for "leading him on" if we had shown any interest to begin with. So we have to be careful. So here's my advice. Express your interest in a subtle manner such as prolonged eye contact, smiling, etc, and if that gets a positive response you can slowly move up from there, with more overt flirtation, etc. If at any point it does not get a response, back off. This way you're not setting up yourself up for rejection, either. It's much easier to back down when your flirting doesn't get a response than go full out declaring your feelings for her and get shot down. So just take it slow and see if she's interested and reciprocates at each level before you step it up. Best wishes.

I suppose if you want to get to know him more, have a few dates. Don't allow him to make you feel pressured. Since you feel there may be some issues with this man, I would consider paying for my own dinner when you went out, at least until you feel comfortable. This way he won't make you feel you are 'obligated,' should he want an intimate relationship. His comments might be a red flag that needs to monitored by you carefully, to be watchful of. Just keep your guard up and listen carefully to what he says, his opinions about people and subjects. You are not committed to him, so this puts you in control of whether you care to see him in the future should he present himself in a not so good light to you. I feel today most young men do feel that sex is a part of the relationship from the git go, but there are also some men of mature age that feel this way as well. Use your common sense and don't rush into anything. You remain in control of your feelings etc. There are some good guys out there, don't settle for less.

Mem are still men no matter what the age and a lot of them have gotten the idea that they will be just as exciting as when they were young if only they were 'on' these new medications that are advertised today. There are men that turn out to be dirty old men and you have to be careful of those as they think that they are no longer responsible. Also, there are those men that are looking for someone to cook their meals, clean for them and take care of them because they never had it any other way. Go out with a guy if you want to but if I were you I would keep it on that basis alone, and unless you think you are really benefiting forget the rest. It is time to stop Mothering these old coots and let them take you places, be in your company, but cut off the rest of the bull.

Even when I was younger, bars were akin to a meat market where everybody went to meet their night's piece of meat. (Sorry for the frankness) I remember as a teen, a goodnight kiss on a first date was kind of expected if it was a good date, even if it wasn't a boyfriend, girlfriend kind of date and was just for fun. I read an article several years ago about a study on today's dating amongst teens. According to what it said, Oral sex among teens today is about as common as that goodnight kiss was when i was a teen. In my opinion, this guy you're talking about, is looking for more than just a casual date. He said what he said, the way he said it, just to get your reaction. Since you didn't put him in his place and tell him to go take a Flying leap, you can bet he has high expectations of having his way with you. Not only would I advise you not to go out with him, I would advise you to have nothing more to do with him even via e-mail. This man sounds like a predator.

The guy sounds creepy and rude. A gentleman would never say anything vulgar that would make a women uncomfortable.

You don't have to change yourself and your standards just because you haven't been dating for awhile.

I wouldn't go out with him but you are a grown women and should know yourself by now.

I have heard from my older single sister that it is very hard to meet nice serious men these days.

I would talk to my married friends and ask them if they know of any single relatives or friends of the family that are looking to go out with a nice women such as yourself.

My sister met her first husband through a girlfriends family.

You don't have to settle for second best.

Men who talk about taking nude pictures of other women's asses to women they barely know are out of line. If it were me, I'd keep this relationship on a casual, "how's it going?" basis that stops at the door of that building. I'm not saying this man is a bad person, but at best he doesn't show a lot of respect for you. Look at it like this: if your daughter was wondering whether to lower her standards just to get a date, what would you tell her? And alarms are there for a reason. God bless.

I would have been more than a little offended. I would have told him to take a long walk off a short pier. My husband does not say crude things like that to me, and I certainly would not allow someone else to do so. Being friends first is the best way to have a meaninful relationship. We were brought up that way, and even if the world has changed, for the worse I might add, we do not need to change our morals to fit in. If someone does not add to your happiness in life then you do not need that person.

Your first mind is your right mind. You don't have to go out with Mr.crude just to get your feet wet into the dating pool. And yes this is par for the course in today's world, but don't give up hope there are a few gentlemen stragglers out there. Keep enjoying life and never give up hope.

I think with younger men, yes, that is the expectation. However, with older men, I would hope they would be a bit more refined and, though they might want it, they would not push or attempt to persuade. This guy's sex talk, though, would have turned me off. Either he's forgotten how to talk to women, or he's just a jerk. It sounds to me like you're not really interested in him, so I would keep him at a distance.

He was probably just trying to see your reaction by saying what he said. Men will be men no matter what the age, in my opinion, they never stop trying. And yes he would probably expect to go to bed with you right away and if you're not up for that then he will probably just move on so many women are so lax today they will give it up for anybody.