Jobless and depressed?

The first thing is to try to get a hold on whether you are depressed, meaning just down and happy about life or really clinically depressed. If the latter then no amount of self-help or positive thinking is going to work -you would need proper medical help. I am assuming its not that for now...

There is no shame in failure. Only people who never try anything and never take risks never fail.

Why doe you need more money for the self-employed venture? Is tehre a way to start it off without needing large funds...if you started small then it went well you could get a loan. I mean: if you are looking for premises to sell say fruit n veg, what about a small van instead; or if you need money for a van for a sandwich round, what about a bike and trailer to start off?? (That sort of thinking anyway)....

Keep trying....keep researching new idea...keep a notebook for when you think of something.

But apart from that....you need a routine which should include exercise and some kind of 'work' What about an afternoon a week doing voluntary work? That would build confidence and will look very good on your cv.

Keep trying

I understand everything you write about in your question. You are not alone, and I am in the same boat, except I am twice your age and live alone in this cottage with just the neighbour's chickens for company.

The jobcentre is pretty useless, and I have had enough of fruitless job applications. One good thing about this recession is that at least I am not made to feel a social leper as well as being unemployable. I have had to come to terms with the prospect that I may never work again, and have just got to keep going somehow until I am old enough to retire on a State pension. You don't have that luxury - it's a hell of a long time before you can retire, so you may as well just make do for now, and regard that secure job as a bonus.

The neighbour's chickens get by pecking around my kitchen floor for crumbs; they do not have jobs either, but seem to get by.

What's the business you have in mind? Can you describe it in "additional details"? If nothing else, maybe it will inspire me and give me some ideas. A bit of brainstorming does not go amiss, and between us, maybe there could be enough ideas to start up a working proposition?

Have you ever seen "Dragon's Den"? Worth watching a few episodes of that just to get ideas what impresses a backer, and what doesn't.

Edit - just scrolling down your other questions. It seems you are an artist. There is an arts and crafts centre in the next village to me: The Fold at Bransford (near Worcester), which might give you some ideas. I have a friend who is an artist doing commissioned paintings after her husband died. It does not make a great deal, but the important thing is that it is an occupation. Keeping overheads as low as possible is crucial, then put yourself in the mind of a buyer looking for Christmas or wedding presents, or something nice to cover up that ugly space in the hallway. Do you have a portfolio?

Would you be willing to post something here, so we can all see what you can do?

It sounds like you've already done some things to get you going job-wise which is Great. The question is have you already had a job in the past? What is your creative side? Do you have natural abilities that you can build from and go with that to help you find something? Ebay is a great place to have a small business as well and only takes a minimal amount of money while your making money. Find things to sell, get them at garage sales etc..Also your life is worth living. It sounds like you have a great family go use them for a sounding board and have a heart to heart talk with them about how you feel on Everything that is going on with you, remember they can't help you if you don't open up and tell them. See what ideas they could help you come up with as far as a job, they could be a Big help to your morale. Although you have tried several things but there is still plenty more out there you just have to keep looking and knocking until you find it. What about even moving to another area which is what some people do. The biggest thing you can do right now for yourself is to call a suicide hot-line for support and or look up a local support group that can help through this low time (the hot-line could help with that too) or maybe your family could help you get some therapy. Remember there is also God, he listens and can be an excellent source for help especially in a time of need, as there is just so much more to life out there then just getting and having a job and it is worth living. In the mean time find your creative side, call a hot-line and something will come your way.

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I totally agree about the job centre: Useless. I went in and they told me to go away and look on the internet!! Have you tried advertising yourself as a cleaner?? £7.50 an hour a good cleaner charges...maybe try putting a note up in a few shop windows???

It is soul destroying being jobless.....perhaps you should also think about volunteering just to fill teh gap in your employment history with something good instead of just 'un-employed'.??

Also...have you been in to every local pub, retaraunt etc asking for work? A lot dont advertise.

Good luck.....chiin up :))

First off - relax. You are not in a great place but you are in a place to make some changes! It's not the end of the world - just a bump in the road!

Have you considered internships? part-time work? temporary work? Also, network the heck out of your friends, their parents, people you meet in your daily life and friends of friends too...you never know who may hold the key to a door just waiting to be opened!

Resumes - pay and have someone write one for you. Seriously, it can't hurt...

I got my job through an old work friend - and so far it's been great! Keep looking - don't give up!

don't you worry too much - just stay calm, stay focused and don't give up hope.

yes its pretty b/s right now, having endured the recession etc.

dont' even know if we're out of it yet.

if its any consolation, you are NOT the ONLY one going through this.

I'm in my final year of my degree at uni, and I'm probably not going to get the degree/band I wanted (1st ) which means Its touch and go for me to get a 2:1 now, such are my own feckin problems.

on top of this - i keep seeing so many graduates fresh out of university, walking in and out of job centers looking glum and hopeless.

you have many options - one of them is to migrate to another country.

or move region within your own, like go north, east south or west depending on where you are right now.

i know this might bore you to death but you should try to arrange a meeting with a career advisor too.

they'll help you.

thats what they are paid to do, thats what they are there for.

don't rush things - slow and steady wins the race.

get a job , any job - and hold onto it with your dear life while saving a bit of £££ on the side.

do this for about 3 or 4 years, just stick it out - the next 3 or 4 years will go by so fast.

when youv'e saved up a bit, and been with an employer long enough they will give you a good reference and maybe even consider moving you up a role , hence higher wages.

don't feel suicidal - feel thankful to god you have your health and you're just another statistic out here doing nothing like me and the rest !

^_^

if you find YOUR situation and YOUR life stressful and depressing, try to imagnie what a grown man who served in the army - but came home to his wife minus his legs and is now wheelchair ridden for the rest of his life.

he has to cope with this - he cant afford to be suicidal.

there are people with serious disabilities which make lfie living diffiuclt - yet they live it.

and they smile.

they smile cos they have hope.

at the end of the storm

theres a golden sky

;-)

all the best

MR ANFIELD ACES

~ " the peoples choice " ~

I have lived off craigslist on and off for 3 years. I just posted things i can do, along with an hourly rate... As far as the other part goes, suicide is very serious thought... No matter how dark it is, there is always light up ahead, but you have to have your eyes open to see it... Get some work, and I know you'll find direction... OBTW, i'm single :)

Sitting at home is enough to drive anyone round the twist.

I found it intolerable.

However going to the job centre was utterly soul destroying.

Can suggest volunteering while you wait. It could seriously add skills to your CV.

http://www.do-it.org.uk/

If job centre objects, show them this:

http://www.volunteering.org.uk/NR/rdonlyres/4EA7E4...

(I found most job centre employers totally ignorant of the rules around volunteering......)

Sometimes volunteering leads to a paid job

Sometimes volunteering means we can access the general area we want to work in a little bit more.

If people ask you what you can do you can always say: I work with old people/ dogs/ at a cat home/ in schools/ whatever....(you are not obliged to tell them it's volunteering!)

But it does stop us going stir-crazy at home...

Gumtree works for some people......one of mine got first job that way.

http://birmingham.gumtree.com/

Out of work and in a mess once....I went back cleaning for a while. Couldn't STAND going to sign on and knew I'd loose my temper if I had to do it the next week....so cleaned a lovely quiet furniture shop for seven months till I regained a proper sense of proportion again. Got paid well. Lovely staff. Gentle calming music. Beautiful surroundings. Lovely customers.

Think I wafted through those months really...........sigh..............

Then woke up and found a more full filling job, but those months were lovely.

Well worth it.

If anyone asked about my job, I just said I worked in specialist furniture shop. Usually their eyes glazed over fast, so I said..."And what do YOU do?"

Then let them talk about themselves.

Most people like doing that.....

Sounds like your in need of some confidence building and some work on your self-esteem, you should really think about counselling, don't do anything rash as life is worth living, good luck