Man showing affection to child= molestation?

I think it's the saddest freaking thing in the world that anybody can make that assumption. I really do. We've all heard the awful stories, and unfortunately too many of us have experienced it first hand too- but that doesn't mean it's fair to make a statement like that. Honestly- I feel bad for her, because she is obviously extremely messed up in the head, and probably lives her entire life in fear.

It's really no wonder why father's don't want to spend time with their kids. They're too scared to. A man can hardly look at a child without someone assuming he's a pervert. My brother-in-law took his daughter to the park a while back, and some idiot woman actually *called the police on him* while my niece was off playing on the swings and not standing right by his side, because he was the only male there that day.

Hey, I happen to have given an answer to that question yesterday about me and my 3 year old boy. I thought that response was pretty uncalled for. A daddy or a mommy who loves their child wholeheartedly is not pedophile it is natural. Unfortunately we lost my husband to an auto accident when our son was 3 months. Eversince our son was all I had and was (still is) all of my world. One way or the other I love to cuddle with my son and he loves to cuddle with mommy. We live alone in a 1 bedroom, 1 bath + bonus room house and have since this past November when my son turned 3. Eversince we have lived in this house he sleeps with me. This was actually my choice to put him to bed with me. He even bathes with me everyday which is my choice as well. I will let him do both of those until he is not comfortable doing so and yet see no sign of it. My baby boy and I are very close we do almost everything together. He is a boy's boy with a good boyish attitude, independent, obedient, respectful, sweet, and beautiful and he is still mommy's baby. The bond between us is that we cuddle almost everyday, he bathes with me everynight before we go to bed, I rock him before we go to bed while sing to him and tell him stories, I lay him in bed with me right next to me, and we are very comfortable. Cuddling, hugging, kissing, and even nakedness between a small child and parent is only natural and mother nature would not make a mistake nor would her creator. Yes, we are naked around each other everyday and I do think he has a cute birthday suit (that is not pedo, that is natural), and when he is naked (whether in the bath or outside playing) I do like to pat, pinch, tickle, and smack his cute little hiney, hint, when he was 6-18 months old I would playfully give him a little tug n' wiggle or tickle on his penis. It's only natural bond between Mommy and baby.

Kanga, You and your son are very fortunate to have each other and your man. Let the love shine through because with out love everything is hopeless. For the record I did give that answer a thumbs down.

God bless

I've never understood the outrage over that statement he made about how he finds sleeping in the bed with children natural and loving. He was in dire need of a teddy bear it seemed to me, most his life. Always trying to fulfill some unfulfilled desire which led him to being a compulsive spender on frivolous items, even after his income wasn't supporting it. If he was hiding something, he wouldn't have made such an obvious easy-to-condemn line. I always picture an image of him reaching for a teddy bear whenever I hear that part of the interview played. And he seemed to apply his same yearnings for love and emptiness to the children he became friends with. He wanted to make them feel good about themselves. And feel safe.

I think its great your Fiance wants to cuddle with you and your son. I do hope its more with you than him, but I can see what you mean when you say it. You have a family bed. I am against my son sleeping withus, but thats because I want to sleep and have my own space when we sleep and want to do things. On the weekend though in the morning that is another story. Our son wakes up and we bring him to bed. We dont sleep but play and hug and cuddle my son. My husband loves our son to pieces and even asks him to give daddy kisses. Sometimes he does and sometimes he looks at him crazy LOL! My son is 13 months old. I love that my son LOVES his daddy and that I love to see them together. Tell everyone else to take a hike and mind their own business :)

OH PLEASE that's the dumbest thing that woman could have ever said my daughter is 5 and cuddles with her dad (who is not her bio dad either but has been with her since the age of 9 months)

she loves to hug her daddy and cuddle on the couch and watch cartoons with her daddy. maybe the woman was jealous because she doesn't have anyone to cuddle with lol

What a disgusting thing to say!

My husband cuddles with our girls constantly. I'd even go as far as to say that the kids have more fun with him, he relates them better and they will come to both us equally for comfort, cuddles and affection. Anyone who thinks there's something wrong with a father showing his children affection is not right in the head. That sort of person is *off*. Period.

Have to agree with you completely. I once answered a question about a 50+ yr old man who was sitting outside his apartment which faced a playground. 90+ percent of the answers were that the man was a pedophile. Because obviously no man has a reason to sit outside and face a playground without bad intentions.

my son is 2 and him and my husband seem to have a tighter relationship than my son and i do sometimes. he's a daddy's boy. they play together, they sit and watch tv together, they go fishing, they cuddle up together when my little boys tired (he likes to fall asleep in daddy's arms)....

is this father/son bonding or my husband being a pedophile??? i say they are bonding!

oh and it is also his step dad, not his biological father..

i agree with you Kanga 100% but there are a lot of sick minded men in this world who do prey on young children

Yep I agree, and if the question was about a woman instead of a man it would be completely acceptable. Some men are too scared to look at kids these days incase something is said.