She won't leave me alone!?

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I am a single guy in my late 40's. I haven't been in any sort of relationship with a woman for 10 years and my last sexual relationship with a woman was the best part of 20 years ago. I'm not good looking or wealthy and women have just never shown much interest in me. I have some issues of my own due to a rotten childhood, I am scared to get close to people especially women and after years of reliance on pornography to gain sexual relief I think I would be too nervous to perform with a woman in bed or I'd come the minute they touched me.
I decided long ago that women and I were better off without each other and while I have been very lonely at times it was more peaceful. It was not as though I was beating them off with a stick anyway as they didn't show any interest until now. I met a young woman she is early 30's and although a bit chubby very pretty. She is very sweet and I have enjoyed meeting with her and chatting to her online but after a while I panic, I don't know what she wants from me or what I am able to give. Women just have this way of getting under your skin and I panic. I tried ignoring her emails, canceling our meetings I even got angry but she just backs off and gives me the time to get over it and then contacts me again, sends me a little gift or cheery email and no matter how I push her away she just keeps coming back and I feel like how can I keep pushing her away when she is being so sweet and kind to me? Why is she doing this? In the past I've found women are not prepared to put up with this sort of behavior at all so why should she? 
I am not sure what she wants or what I want but I don't think she is going to leave me alone any time soon, what should I do?

Johnnie&#39;s cash🌴🌙☂✈ · Accepted Answer

she sounds sweet. she knows you're scared. she sounds like she likes you. ever heard the saying, flee love and you'll find it? you're trying to flee her but she's stuck on you like a wart. im happy for you and really hope everything works out in both of your favors. i hope you give yourself a chance to be happy.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to be honest with her but you do not have to tell her everything!  You need to send her an e-mail explaining where you are and what you want.  Say something like, "Mary (her name), I have enjoyed the time I have spent with you on the internet and meeting but I am must be honest with you.  I really do not want to be involved with anyone and it seems  to me that you want more from me than I am able or willing to give.  I think it would be better if just did not communicate or meet anymore. You are a very nice person and I believe that you deserve to find a man who you can mutually share a life with."  That is it!!!  If you are really serious about this then you need to cut off all communication with her and don't lead her on by continuing to e-mail and meet. You need to block her e-mail address and ignore her phone calls.  This is not rocket science.....it is common sense.  Trust me, she will move on.  You are making this more difficult that it is, pal.

Katie M · Answer

I mean this in the most innocent, nicest way but you sound very socially retarded. Guess what? There are people who like you for who you are. At least you understand that YOU are the problem. If you like her and you have enjoyed meeting with her, lighten up. Realize that your childhood is gone and there is nothing that can be done to change it. Life is short and if you've been given an opportunity to be with a sweet woman, go for it. btw, it's rude that you felt it necessary that she is "a bit chubby". Big deal. No one is perfect.

Anonymous · Answer

OH MAN!! this is a Keeper!! well lets see. it seems like she is really into you from what you are saying. seems like she wants to try to have something with you. the best thing you can do is to is to sit back and think if you want to procceed to have a relationship between you and her. as far as her continuing to speak to you even after you are so mean is beyond me. but some girls honestly feel and think that they deserve to be treated the way men treat them, even if that means they are being treated badly. so please do not continue to lead her on. it seems like she thinks or at least hopes that something is going to come out of what she is taking from you. you should just be honest and let her know exactly what is on your mind and how you feel about the whole relationship. Good Luck

? · Answer

I feel sad about you! You feel diffident on the relationship especially if someone got close to you.
Do you think you would be alone forever? No one walk with you at the park way when you being old...Do you really want it? Go to get her! You won't have another if you lost this chance!

K D · Answer

Your 40 and acting like your 16. Stop playing games. If you're not interested then just tell her. You're sending mixed signals.

geneticbeauty · Answer

Stop being so anal about what ya can not do and say what ya can do! yu said at times you are lonely be honest with her tel lher that she seems very aggressive and that it is not her it is you that you enjoy your conversations but it has been a while since ya ben in a relationship! honesty!  I bet you would enjoy being in a relationship again especially with someone who seems to be fond of you! Stop it and go have some fun!!!!!! On your time ............................................GL

mommyof3angles · Answer

HAVE YOU THOUGHT MAYBE ITS TIME TO PUT THOSE BAD THOUGHTS AWAY AND JUST ENJOY HER COMPANY BECAUSE YOU NEED IT AND SHE WILL UNDERSTAND ABOUT THE WHOLE SEX AND CUMMING THING JUST RELAX AND GET IT OVER WITH SHE WANTS YOU AND DEEP DOWN YOU WANT HER HAVE FUN TAKE IT OFF AND ENJOY IF YOU COME TO EARLY DO IT AGAIN LOL

Anonymous · Answer

Why do you post this over and over?  If you really don't want anything to do with her, just ignore her.  That should eventually work in your favor.

? · Answer

just ask her what she looking to get out of it. girl respect honesty and straight forwardness. so be upfront with her. dont run away because she may be offended by that. and  if you're not looking to get into anything, tell her that as well.

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