Bridal shower gift vs. wedding gift?

Unfortunately, the wedding gift giving just does not stop, one is now expected for every event. Engagement parties, bachelorette parties, now a present is expected for them, too. And you are right, it is all for the same occasion. If it were me, and and knowing people are splitting their budget between four or 5 gifts, I would yell stop! And tell those that are close to me to cool it, one or two, that is enough. Or get me something that costs next to no money, like a collection of tried and true recipes. And I would want artisan gifts, I got a towel for Xmas with a crochet border on it, you hang it up in the kitchen for pretty or handy purposes. I love it.

Traditionally, if the shower is for the bride, the present is for the bride. The gift used to be something to decorate or stock up her household, something that only she would use. Occasionally, it would be something just for the bride, like her favorite perfume, or a basket with soaps and bubble baths. Since the bride did not have a household of her own, gift giving was easy. The gifts might have been hand crafted, or artistic, or creative, but were never expensive. That would have been rude, you did not show up at the shower with a Cuisinart, when everybody else gave artisan gifts..

Now fast forward to 2010, there are couples showers, where a present is expected for both the bride and groom. Or the bride wants a lingerie shower. Or she already has a household, and only luxury items are on her/their registry list. And brides and grooms expect presents of the caliber of the wedding present. And brides do not want hand made artisan things.

So to answer your question, since the bride opens her shower presents at the shower, a present is expected, and will be noticed by everyone if one is not offered. And yes, a wedding present is expected too. Figure out your budget, and split it up between the presents.

Sneaky trick: some people spend the lion's share or all of the budget on the shower present, where people are there to ohh and ahh over it. And give the lesser gift, or no gift at all for the wedding, when maybe only the bride will see it.

Bridal Shower Gift Etiquette

Bridal Shower Presents

A gift for the bridal shower is required. However, when receiving a wedding invitation, it is not carved in stone that anyone has to bring another, more formal gift; but, most people do. You are guests of the bride and groom and therefore are not expected to bring a gift to the wedding. Many people get this wrong and put registries in wedding invitations, this is a big breach of proper wedding etiquette. Registries go in shower invitations only. After having said this, the weddings I attend are usually relatives or very close friends and it is my personal wish to give a shower gift and a wedding gift. If you do not wish to buy two gifts that is entirely up to you.

Bridal showers are gift for the brides

Things that are given at wedding showers are

Lingerie, Things for the kitchens, things for the house that the brides like

These are things for the bride to start out her life with

Wedding gifts are things for the couples

Some of the things could be the same

A lot of people give money for weddings, and they will not for showers

Crystal is a good wedding gift, that you could give for a shower

Gifts for a wedding is for the couple

It's what they both like or need

For showers I give something off the registry or something for the home. If I don't attend the shower, I usually do not send a gift.

For weddings, I give $100 or more in cash or a check (I ask what would be preferred) . If I do not attend the wedding, I still give money if I am fairly close to the couple.

the bridal shower gift is normally something more personal for the bride. if it is a couple's shower, you will still need to buy a wedding gift, even if you get something for the shower for the two of them

the wedding gift is normally something for the couple together or for their general household use.

The bridal shower gift is just for the bride, while the wedding gift good for both the groom and the bride.. .

Check this out:

http://www.augusta-weddings.org/

I found this company that encompasses both gifts. You can give a gift certificate from www.mydreamlines. They can create the wedding dress, tuxedo, and flowers. Very impressive gift and I love this company.

the first gift doesn't have to be as formal as the wedding gift. i'd suggest a nice bottle of wine or a picture frame for the bridal shower, while you can look up their registry for the wedding gifts. have fun!