How to live with my 13 yr old stepdaughter?

She's at a difficult stage of her life right now, and little things can have a very big effect on her. Even though you've been part of her life for a while now, she might suddenly be feeling that you're going to take her dad away from her when she needs him the most. It also sounds as though her dad doesn't want to let her grow up too fast, so he still treats her like a little girl.

Try sitting down together, you, your step-daughter and her father and talk things through. Talk about your thoughts and feelings, but also give her a chance to express hers. There might be something worrying or bothering her, even if it's just the things that are a part of growing up, like friendships and relationships or puberty. It could make the whole family closer, and also help your step-daughter bond with you again.

I hope you can get things sorted out so you can be a happy family again. :)

Like any child of a divorced home she wants her dad and found a way to get him to pay attention to her. Only option you have it talk to your wife and see if she is willing to talk to her dad about not babying her so much. If she isn't don't do anything else and leave it alone and let it die down. Keep doing what you are doing to keep the peace. Don't correct her when her dad is around it is his job. Good luck.

Because she probably feels that you are taking her dad away. When my parents split it was cos my dad had an affair and I hated his girlfriend with a vengeance even going as far as screaming that she was a whore in front of my dad. Because she was the reason that my mom threw my dad out and she was always around so I felt like I never got to be with him anymore without her. I wanted to like her but there was always resentment and I always felt like I was betraying my mom by wanting to like her and thats probably how your stepdaughter feels too. We get on quite well now because I finally got a grip and told her that I was sorry and wanted to start again and now we are both making a real effort. Get her on her own and talk with her. Tell her that you dont want to tread on anyones toes and that you arent trying to come between her and her dad and that you just want to be mates with her. She will come around eventually just dont lose your temper or give her any reason to hate you. Talk to your husband and ask him to just let you handle any issues because whenever my dad stepped in I always felt like he was taking her side and it just made me resent her even more. Good Luck and I hope you manage to work stuff out. But she has to want it to work too, it cant be a one way thing.

My only children came into my life when I married their dad. They were 3 and 6. When the oldest, "Jane," reached junior high, my husband's ex-wife allowed them to spend school years with us and she took them summers. She actually told Jane that as a teenager she would start to hate her parents and she wanted Jane to hate me instead of her.

Raising teen stepchildren, as you know, it heartbreakingly difficult. However, as I compared notes with friends I learned it wasn't much different from raising biological children at that age. We got through it with a lot of family and marriage counseling and remembering the love that had brought us together.

My dear husband is a doter and when we were first married he would bring both little ones, whom I had just put to bed for the night, into our bed while I was showering. He thought it would bring us all closer together. I wasn't the only one who learned new ways of relating to the kids in counseling.

Both girls now tell me repeatedly how thankful they are that their dad married me and I am their mom (without replacing their biological mom, of course). Their daughters are the delight of my life.

Please don't lose hope that you and your husband can make this work. But, believe me, you can't and shouldn't do it alone. Your husband (and probably a good family therapist) has to be part of the equation.

Best of luck.

PS My younger daughter just called to say, "Good-night, Mom. I love you." Miracles do happen. I'm hoping one happens for you.

When it's the night and she's about to go to sleep talk with her saying I know it's hard with the loss of your mother and try to say things that relate to that say that I'll try to be the best stepmother possible and if i make that promise can you be a good step daughter to me? If there is anything I'm doing wrong then please tell me so i can fix it. And even if sometimes we don't get along I want you to know I'm trying my best to become a nice mother.

then just leave to avoid any questions ,rude comments, etc

also if she tries to interrupt say please listen and continue if she keeps talking infront of you just keep interrupting her to that way she'll be calm and listen

does she have a mother....i'd send her back to her mother and speak to her father and say enough is enough, you have done the best you possibly could for the years that you have been with her and now she is being a B%t#c about it, she has no respect for you at all. I know how you feel mine is 8 now and if this is what i have to look forward to well i best be trying to get her out of my life now. Your husband loves you and i am sure he would understand where you are coming, he has to look what you have done for him.

Good luck!!!

She simply does not like you. Have a talk with her dad first and if he doesn't do anything about it then, move out.

Leave her alone she don't like you and i know how it feels she don't want any other woman with her dad besides her mom. SO suck it up and take it. Face it you ain't her mom so stop trying to act like it.

Whoop some behind.

Go black on her.

Let her see a side of her that she's NEVER seen before.

That's what my (very black) step-mom would've done..

Go upside her head, if she keeps talking that mess..