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Sent my missing husband a text. Tell me what you think?
After contemplating my own behavior in my "drama", I have realized many things about me. I have been afraid to truly allow myself to love. And in all my pretense of being "strong" and "above" it all, I have realized that I am truly in love with my husband. I didn't know this until God showed me.
Will you read the text message I wrote to my husband and tell me what you think?
"B-----, I am not the strong person I pretend to be. I am overwhelmed with grief and I am overwhelmed with not knowing what to do. You were right, I have guarded myself so much out of fear that people will find out that I am just a scared little girl. I push out of fear. God is doing a work in me, God has shown me so much. Believe the best in me.....as I do you. We can make it through this. I have realized how much in love with you that I am. I am at peace with it. I have never known such a powerful love before. I feel you even though you are far away. This love made me afraid and I didn't trust it. I needed this time apart to find me, again. And to realize how much I truly love you. God knows my heart. I come to you with humility and to ask for a real chance at our marriage, when you are ready. This is the woman you fell in love with....your friend. I am with you, as you are with me. God has truly blessed my soul....with you, my husband. I value our marriage and the vows we said. I value you, the man. I have been so wrong. Pray and let God show you. Read your Bible to find answers."
I can not be objective enough to know how this text message sounds. Will you help me. by giving me an honest, yet thoughtful opinion? I am coming to terms with many things about what happened to cause my husband pain. I was one of those things. I am trying to save my marriage. What I had with my husband is so rare.....I don't know what to do.
Thank you ahead of time for your compassion.
2 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
i'm going to be blunt with you because i feel that is what you need.
first off, under normal circumstances i would say that is a beautiful message. by normal circumstances i mean a husband and wife who are having trouble communicating or perhaps even getting along. in your case.. i feel you are taking too much of the blame. i just went and read all of your questions from the last 5 months. this doesn't sound like the sort of thing that is because you have your guard up or any of that. so.. you are taking too much of the blame. this man has some explaining to do and a lot to make up for.
just because you are his wife and there are a lot of responsibilities and stresses in your marriage (your MIL) does not mean you are his personal doormat. what he has done to you is wrong in every sense. a man who respects his wife would never say i love you and act like things are perfect and then the next day ask you to leave so he can have space and then he LEAVES.. no note, nothing. he leaves you with all the responsibilities of everything and he won't even communicate with you about what is going on. this is not a partnership. repeat this to yourself, "i am NOT a doormat" however many times it takes to realize that he is stepping all over you and you deserve to be treated right.
God i am sure is there with you and hearing your prayers and working in your heart. but is your husband letting God do any work in his heart? i think he would not be missing anymore if this were the case. your husband does not value you enough. so stop appologizing to him and taking the blame. has he taken any? has he come home and helped you with the mess he just left you with? let him come to you. let him say sorry. he left you to deal with everything, not the other way around so, again -stop taking the blame for what has happened.
it is a beautiful message and very heartfelt, at least to a man who actually has been wronged in some way, a man who does deserve to hear sorry. in this case, you deserve to hear from him what you wrote. you will be in my prayers. i truly hope this works out for you and that you realize this is not your doing.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
If I had been sent this message it would have made me think,better would have been to have dropped the references to God and the Bible,it makes you are using religion as an emotional crutch. Most men stick it out with a woman who treats him mean, so unless there is another party involved you may have treated him shabbily.
