Sent my missing husband a text. Tell me what you think?

After reading both what you said, and some of the comments I must say...some people don't understand. Although the text is a bit long, if he is the man you describe, he'd have no problem reading it. And I also understand this is your only source in hopes of contacting him. So what else can you do? I disagree with a few of the comments on here, because they have failed to see how you described this man you love. He is a Godly man and because he obviously holds marriage sacred, you just may have hope. Don't lose Hope Diane. I'd leave it all the way it is, and let it go from there. If he is the way you say he is, then he will forgive you. He will want to reconcile and make this marriage work. So be patient, pray and know there is hope.

As a man, I felt very moved by your honesty. Length of what you are trying to convey should not matter, except to those who can not read past 3 sentences. You are only trying to share yourself, honestly, with your husband. And it appears it may be the first time that you are being truly honest with him. For that you should be proud.

If I had received this message, I would be rethinking my choices and look into myself for some answers and hold myself accountable for the pain I was causing my wife.

And God is NOT a third wheel or a crutch in a marriage. God is supposed to be the foundation of all enduring and loving marriages......if people would read their Bibles, they would know this and possibly have decent marriages themselves, instead of being cynical and judgmental.

One piece of advice, I do agree that you need to move forward with your life, regardless of what happens. It is one thing to wait around for your husband to play with your life, while he waits for his mother to pass on. It is another for you to allow him to control your life, from afar. If your husband remembers all that you two shared.....and he will, he will be back. Trust in that. But live your life to the fullest until that day comes. Who knows? Your feelings may change by then.

Text messages are limited to 126 characters, so all he saw was a non-sensical: "B-----, I am not the strong person I pretend to be. I am overwhelmed with grief and I am overwhelmed with not knowing what to"

That said, unless your husband is a true believer, and I mean true believer, not just someone who attends church on Sunday, then all the "God this…God that" is going to go over like a lead balloon (I cannot believe that anyone with God in his heart would go "missing"). Remember your relationship with God is between you and God. Your relationship with your husband is between you and your husband. God is not the third wheel in your marriage.

Whatever you said in that text is good, if you just drop the crutch, and I mean God. Keep God in your heart, but keep your message simple and heartfelt.

And if he does comeback, remember drama is for high school, it has no place in your marriage.

Men generally like solutions to problems , its clear you wrote this from the heart but it leaves me with the feeling your relying on God , personally I would be a lot happier if it was you and your commitment that I was going to rely on. Try editing the txt to remove the God references and see how it reads Good luck hope things work for you

If I had been sent this message it would have made me think,better would have been to have dropped the references to God and the Bible,it makes you are using religion as an emotional crutch. Most men stick it out with a woman who treats him mean, so unless there is another party involved you may have treated him shabbily.

Very cruel...very very cruel. You wrote him this 47,000 page long text and he has to read it on a small phone screen. Why just not shoot him woman? You just put this guy to so much torture and its going to go down in a few ways:

1) He is going to skim past it and miss your point

2) He is going to read the first two sentences and then delete it because it way too long.

3) He is going to read it and then curse you out for writing such a long text. He is going to ask you do you know what email or writing a letter is for?

I think you used the wrong platform and made your case worst.

Most men shut down after all of that (they are usually men of few words).

If you were trying to apologize, you did not say I am sorry and please forgive me. Or, you did not say, I take the blame here.

So, I don't know if that is what you were trying to do or not.

So, it is OK.

But, give him time and don't expect miracles.

I just read the additional details you wrote. Are you saying that your husband picked his Mom over you ? I am sorry to hear that. It happened to me in my first marriage.

I will pray for you.

Peace.

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Well what i can tell u is this...........

If i had read that from a wife who i was fighting with, or a serious partner.

It would make me think twice about my next step.........

Meaning that, sometimes in life u come to a crossroad. If you go one way, you are on your own and have to make it on your own.

If you go the other way, the rewards speak for themselves and hold alot of weight in regards to what u want in life.

Any guy who reads that will prob tell you, that once they have read it. They would know how deeply those words sink into their head. Any guy with any sense of maturity will tell you that if they choose that other path of going out on their own. They would potentially be giving up something special in regards to love and trust the woman gives.

A guy would only get one or two times in his life that a woman he cares about comes out with those words. Its a very rare occasion.

They would be mad if they walked away from it.

Diane ... this is such a wonderful piece of writing. It has moved my heart, and I hope that it moves your husband's heart. I pray the Lord is with you both and working his way through you.

I would suggest changing just one little bit .. where you say "I am with you, as you are with me." In all the message you are talking about yourself, the realities of you, what you have been through. I wonder if it is a good idea to tell him about himself, as you do with "You are with me". I wonder if you could change it slightly to be "Cany you be with me?"

I hope life works out for you....this is fantastic. xx

Your message is nice, but.....

If your husband is like me he will read it so many times over that any response he gives will be both convoluted, and logical rather than from the heart.

If you have to "think" about love, then you are not ready for a lasting commitment imo. To me love transcends logic....that is why people have problems defining it.

If I was the recipient of a message, I would like it to be simple eg. "I love you so much. Please let me prove it to you. I miss you so much."

Simple, and hard for him to dwell too long over.