How to get my partner to be intimate without "begging"..(I've asked this b4 and no one responded PLEASE HELP!)?

They say when you stop drugs or booze, you should abstain from sex for at least 30 days. Why? I don't know. I quit drinking in 1993 and I kept having sex.

However, that said, the bottom line is just sit down with him on Sunday and ask him to spend 1 hour, that's one whole whopping hour out of an entire week, looking into your eyes, stroking your tiny pregnant belly, and ask him to nicely give you some sex and you'll make it worthwhile for him.

Maybe show him some affection and be patient. If he's off the bottle, hopefully you know he's really off the bottle, sex might relieve stress. If there's a reward in it, maybe you on top so he doesn't have to strain, then he might think its better.

Whatever it is, just confront him on A through D and find out. If its none of the above, then ask him why he can't do this 1 little thing for you. After all he wants you to be pleased and happy too right?

Hmm, There are a few questions to resolve first. Is he having an affair or Masturbating a lot, therefore getting his sexual relief somewhere else? Addicts can mask their acting out well, are great liars and can even lie to themselves. Him being gone so long each day does surely qualify him for the ability to be satisfying himself sexually in other ways. Also, I have not mentioned this but he may also have homosexual desires which is propelling his desire in different directions.

Does he have any performance problems that could cause him frustration? This could be a symptom of above, but it could also just be a physical problem which is causing him anxiety about sex, therefore his avoidance.

The other thing I want to bring up here is that the more aggressive you are to him, the less he wants it. Men like the thrill of the chase, and to conquer themselves. Perhaps over time, he has gotten tired of being hit on feeling like a piece of meat.

Only you know the answer to the next point. How is your own personal hygiene. Do you make sure you are always bristol clean when presenting yourself to him? I have known lots of women, and some women, although maintaining a good personal hygiene program, still have a foul or strange vaginal odour. I came to the conclusion that if they always had that, they would just think its normal, but I assure you it is not. Sex is a cerebral thing, and if he has ever encountered any " bad sights or smells" he just may be having a hard time dealing with that.

Some men have been found to be afraid of sex with a pregnant woman, or find the whole thing a turn off. Others like me are the opposite, pregnant women tend to radiate and shine...... and lactate, lol.

I hope I didn't offend, just some thoughts to chew on. Best of luck to you in your marriage and impending family.

Refocus on him. I know you feel neglected and frustrated, but stepping up in front of him and taking a stand and announcing your problem is likely going to put him on defense.

Instead, try giving him a back rub when he gets home, nibble his ears a little, kiss him, and whatever else it takes to turn him on. Then you can be on top and do all the work. Make sure he is satisfied that you're concerned about both of you and not just yourself, and he'll be more likely to come back for more. (Yes, I know he's not showing concern for your needs right now, but sometimes you have to force yourself to be a bigger person to get past things like this. Don't snipe at him about it or things will just get worse.)

Good luck!

Sounds like his job has tired him out. Be happy he quit drinking. Tell him you are hot for him because he is such a man for being able to quit. Let him sleep for a while when he comes home. Set the alarm for middle of the night and give him hand or mouth to get him going. I wasn't in to pregnant women but had sex all the time she was in that situation. Once you get us going we get interested fast.

Recovering from an addiction is a long process. Your husband has a lot to deal with, both physically and mentally. Its probably a combination of being so tired and learning to live without alcohol. I know it's hard not to automatically assume that you are the problem, but most likely, you aren't. Just continue to support him in the positive change he's making for himself and his family. As he adjusts, everything is going to be back to normal. Just be patient.

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Of course he says "not at all" when asked if he's afraid of having sex with you when you are pregnant. He's trying to be supportive. He IS afraid of it. (tho guys don't like the word "afraid"). You need to get aggressive. Sit on him!

What Monica said, plus this;

http://marriage.about.com/od/intimacy/tp/createint...

PS Try a morning jump start ;-)

His body is going thru a big adjustment without the alcohol.

Does he need help?

May I suggest?

smartrecovery.org

he is still detoxing and angry because he can't drink. 90 days and he will be all over you.