My husband's parents are driving me crazy?

Wow-what a mess huh? I feel that you& your husband have done plenty for his parents. You tried to save their house by living there and paying all the bills. It's not unreasonable, that you wanted to make the house more your own, with your extra $. The parents said it would be your house, didn't they? So you try to make it more livable and what happens ?His mother throws a fit and makes your life miserable. Didn't they mean what they said, about giving you the house. Are you sure they are his parents, instead of his children? The result was, his parents got to keep the house, that they couldn't afford to keep.You & your husband had some peace, a little while in your apt. Then they lose the house, because you only wanted to decorate it.They made some senseless, childish, decisions & that's supposed to be your problem, to take them in. I don't think so.

Don't you know why his other siblings are living their own lives ? Because they are supposed to. You are young & are having your own family and need to have your own life. You have done your best to help them and instead they were ungrateful, threw tantrums and lost their house. That was not your fault. Now let them figure out where they are to live. It's not your responsibility.You ask one thing of your father-in-law and what does he do ? Nothing ! They needed you and you were there. Where are they when you need help ? He sleeps in. That is not much to ask of your father-in-law to take the dog out. He's just lazy and he's only thinking of himself. Let him take care of his wife and himself somewhere else.

There are couples who live with their parents, when newly married, so they can save money. You and your husband got the reverse. Parents shouldn't take advantage of their children like his parents have done. If his parents are still young enough to work, then they should do so and leave you and your husband alone. They should stop free-loading and be responsible adults. Don't make the mistake his parents made and bite off more than you can chew. You can't afford to let them live off your husbands hard earned pay and risk losing your house. You have to stop enabling them or they will continue using you both. No, is such an easy word to say.

I should tell you, that if you stop helping his parents, then they will have to help themselves and that's a good thing. That's when you stop being co-dependents.

Tell your husband what the deal is, that's all you can really do, seems to me like the father in law needs to get to walkin, apparently you notice he's taken ya'lls kindess for weakness so step up and lay down the law or tell your husband to.I think ya'll bout a house just a little to early. Just my opinion also, you should have stayed in the apts. But I say kick dad to the curb, and if you are a high risk prego, let a family memeber of yours keep the dogs till later

It appears to me that you care more about two dogs than a human being. Your argument is very simple minded and not a mature one. The dog issue is very very stupid argument to me. On the other hand you have the right to live with your husband and the baby alone without paying for the father-in-law expenses; but he is the father of your husband and there are times that your husband has to reach out for his father. This is called a life. No body expects a life be free of all problems and this is one of them. If you cannot bear with this little problem (it is a very very little problem, just wait until major problem arises and you will have difficult problem with your life and you will see how little problem this was), then I think you are not grown up enough for a baby and and whole complete life.

Sorry if I did not have a favorable solution for you.

You spent time to write your issue for us, but you did not want to spend a little bit of thinking how to manage it on your own. How would you expect you manage major issue???

Sorry again for criticism.

honestly.

you cant ask from an older person who might not be dog friendly and very probably depressed to be jobless at his age (which i supposed to be 50-60) and not earning any income. perhaps you can also ask your husband to take a couple of days off to help his father find a job.

help him prepare a cv and post adds.

you seem to be cash strapped as well, so you may also consider getting rid of your dog(s).

I highly recommend that you talk to his father. Tell him that you need help. Tell him you've been keeping a roof over his head for far to long and it isn't helping that he doesn't have a job.

When you get marry, you are also marrying to the family. You should have thought about that before you got marry. Now, what you need to do is to talk to your husband openly. He should be your best friend, your lover and you need to be able to talk to him about anything.

divorce

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