How to tell a friend to stop eating so much?

When a friend of mine was hosting a spaghetti dinner at her house, she simply announced as she was bringing the basket of garlic bread over that she'd made enough for each person to have two slices. She stated the case without being punitive, and everybody stayed with a two piece limit. You may need to do as another poster suggested and tell him to take ONE, then pass the rest on to others. When he's standing behind you smacking, you could either just "accidentally" back into him or tell him outright that the kitchen is small and you need yours space to be efficient.

Tone is everything! Well you know never to hand him a plate of food! Next time you're preparing/plating and he is standing behind you smacking his lips at the food, tell him something along these lines(and remember its all in the tone) "oh no you know you need to go sit down! You're worse than my dog! Don't worry there is enough for everyone!"

Anything that addresses his behavior but in that light tone should help him go sit down join the other guest and keep him out of the kitchen, then just always make sure you never hand him any of the food first.

Usually I'm all for the up front blunt honesty, but I do feel that if you say something to him head on he may take it the wrong way and not come over.

Poor guy - it sounds like he has an addiction to food. Men who have this disorder were more often than not abused as a child. I'll bet you anything he binges at home when he's alone.

This is a touchy issue for you to address. Pointing out his behavior will make him realize that others are aware of his problem.

Here's what I would do. I would use light humor to address the issue. When he stands behind you and smacks his lips, say, 'Down boy. You already had your treat now go away.' Don't say it sarcastically. Say it in a humorous way. When he's holding a platter of appetizers say, "Take one and pass it to the others." Again - keep your tone light and humorous.

If you guys are really good friends, then have a heart to heart with him. Tell him you are concerned about his eating habits. Tell him you are concerned about his physical health and his emotional health. Offer to help him work on this problem. If you have this heart to heart talk, make sure he understands that your concern is about him, not about his behavior at the gathering and let him know this.

Just my thoughts - Peace Out.

Talk to him in private, emphasis on the private, and tell him that while you enjoy his company and he is always welcome to these events, he MUST consider the fact that there are other people who are also hungry and would like something to eat and remind him he ate all the appetizers that time. Tell him if he needs more food than the others he needs to bring more food for himself.

You didn't say, but has he ever brought anything to these parties?

dish out plates instead for everyone so everyone has an equal amount of everything then what can he do?lol and dont pass anything to him or past him if it's appetizers put them on a small napkin for everyone or a small dish because if you keep putting them on 1 platter he'll keep scoffing them all

This is not something you can politely "confront" him over. What you could do is teasingly say "Hey Mikey, leave some for us!" or "Do you need a sandwich or something?"

However... this is pretty terrible behavior and you're not going to have much luck re-training him if his parents never taught him any better. I think if it were me... I would just stop inviting him over to food-related events like this.